Frienemies Versus Kindred Spirits

I am gonna go ahead & rip up the rulebook now. I think it’s time. My writing career has reached that season, as my spirit has evolved to the hum of holy holographic heights, & my range of worldly motion has reached prolific peaks. Click Follow. I’m on a role & plan to stay here.

This blog is essentially my online magazine of sorts. It was originally launched as a website to promote my book, but it has now evolved into a weekly publication of various informative & entertaining articles from all different directions. God works in mysterious ways. I am who I am, & if you don’t like me, where I came from, who I roll with or the powerful presence of mind I may have, oh well. Keep it steppin’ then. With that said, here goes my newest invention, ripped with style & grace as always. Thank you for attending the service 🙂

If two people have nothing in common, they don’t hang out. If two people disagree, they work it out, agree to disagree or go separate ways. So why do so many people mindlessly spend so much time around others that harm them, cramp their style, tarnish their ideals, victimize their hearts, & steal their mojo? It is simply not necessary or good for ya even. And, that’s around-about what this article will touch upon.

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Super Zapp! Here to shed some lustrous rainbow faceted diamond light again, folks.

I am gonna start with something a little taboo, though first…Since these days people seem to like to be lured into reading as if lustfully enslaved. I am gonna do just that from now on BTW. People do oftentimes read books still, but circa 21st century, they seem to read em on an e-reader. In the dark ages of the 80s & 90s…lol… folks used to pick up a mag walkin’ thru the local convenience store line, nowadays everybody reads headlinesonline.

Speaking of books, ya can’t help but notice the significant levels of endorphins that arise when one engages in the activity of reading escape-worthy delicious novels. The handsome hunk of a hero prevails, the seductive damsel in distress is rescued & ravished, vikings & villains have this sexy talent for illuminating intrigue, & the townspeople are all interconnected in mysterious rather promiscuous twined tales. The games they all play are riddled with scandalous wild forbidden provocative pursuits. Blood pressure rises, hearts beat with a bit of butterflies, & flying by the seat of the pants on a wing & prayer is quite stimulating, erotic & esoteric even. Spray me down with a hose there, Bill-bob…my ears are hot, my cheeks blushing…

I am not so sure how I intend on integrating that salacious edge into the prose I compose. But we will soon find out together. Mainly, cause I usually don’t see what’s comin’ til it gets here.

Sex & spirituality coming together in one sentence, on one platform… in not two separate chairs, but quite frankly…on a very cozy hammock. Swinging back & forth, & back & forth again, on the air & breezes of a lazy summer day. Happy together. Drawn to each other like two entities swirling in a magnetic cosmic dance of sorts. Essentially, exploring the many hallways of “a good-time.”

Can’t have a successful union without the consummation of sex with a spiritual backdrop. Period. Sex without the spiritual backdrop will be the kind that just feels…kinda empty afterward. We’ve all been there. Ya live & learn as they say. Some of us may still even be there, no biggie. I’m sure you’re open to improvement, & that’s what I am here for.

 

With that said, to be on the same wavelength & energetic pathway where chemistry is a no-brainer is to be kindred spirits. If one decides to lay down with a person who doesn’t fit that profile via matching them vibrationally (said kindred spirit), the sexual encounter with certainty, will be lacking & unfulfilling any further than the act itself. Then when the lust factor subsides, what’s left…is very simple: blah. Yes, you heard it right…BLAH is left. lol. Leftover buzzes work to mask the blah. But, when the rose-colored glasses come off…one see’s how senseless & unmeaningful it all was. Hey, it’s all a person’s preference. If you are the type to be cool with the surface illusion of a great time masking the truth of a rather spiritually toxic time…that’s absolutely your god-given right to choose, baby. Who am I to judge?

Goin to the bone-yard without a condom or a clue…is just plain stupid if ya ask me. Sex with a kindred spirit on the other hand, always has a sweetness to it. Like fruit from a tree… so naturally satisfying, all aged to perfection with sunshine & raindrops, bursting with nutrients & flavor. Now what’s not to like about that?  That’s what I’m talkin about. Ya just can’t go wrong. If you wanna eat raisins, it’s certainly your prerogative. But I like grapes much better. Plump, alive & juicy…. OR… dead, shriveled up, & preserved with sulfur. You choose. lol

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As long as two people are connected to each other by way of wavelength… then energetically their spirits will thus blend & bodies will then just follow. It’s law. Easy breezy. Can’t feel crappy after that one…unfulfilled or shameful. It’s a “good time” not just cause of the benefits, but because each person’s soul gets fed too. It’s quite natural actually. How it goes down. hahaha (no pun intended).couple-in-love-drinking-coffee-in-coffee-shop-2-640x426

Two people blend & bond & benefit each other sexually & spiritually if they indeed are kindred spirits. If they are…then unconditional love is present within the union & the God-Force dominates & orchestrates their togetherness shared. You don’t have to be married to have that. You don’t have to even be exclusive or monogamous. Not that I am in favor of promiscuity or promoting irresponsible “free-love.” I am just saying that there doesn’t have to be a requirement for a label or expectation until the two folks decide otherwise. Communication is in place just for that very purpose.

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What I am speaking of here, is a brand of sexual connection that is healthy, healing, holistic, happy, & the ultimate rush, I think. The ultimate high. It makes perfect sense, for those of us who have grown tired of outdated dating. For those of us who are looking to change up the so-called rules & regs of the sex game. Trade out the dirty socks for clean ones….it is indeed 2017, last time I checked. A redefining of plenty of things is surely at hand, & that definitely includes sex & spirituality.

Things just unfold easily when you are in the arms or presence of a person who gets you. It’s never a trying experience. Time not only flies, but typically disappears. The quality of thoughts & feelings exchanged is enchanting. Magic seems to be all in the air. Things make sense. The environment begins to fall into focus. Warm vibes crown you both. Each is a muse to the other. No shortage of smiles. Giggles shall be plentiful. Mutual respect & admiration is king. You CARE. And, hugs, hands & hearts blend like butter & toast.soul-300x250

We obviously cannot have loose sexual boundaries with all of our kindred spirits. But we certainly can allow ourselves to feel good with each of them. It’s perfectly natural to favor a kindred spirit in such a way that your presence is complimentary to their flow. I personally, want to help up your game in any way I can. I want to be an asset to folks. I want to accentuate the good & great & powerful aspects of a person just by being fully present & aware. I expect, command, & decree the same in return. We weren’t put on this Earth to put each other down. We were born here to build each other up. And in order to do that, we must have open hearts, which I will explain further in a sec.

As I just mentioned, not every kindred spirit you meet, you will have sexual chemistry with. But, make sure the one you are sleeping with…is indeed a kindred spirit. Some kindred spirits are work or school ones. Some are family ones that you are related to. Some are friends, young, older, male or female. Some are both friends & lovers. All…serve individual purposes in your life. And, there is nothing like a life chock full of kindred spirits.d8053138b9a521481928f0a39808a173

It’s fun, it’s rewarding, it’s like a pleasant afternoon walk through life’s various scenes & circumstances…with little or no opposition or “frienemies.” I say “Frienemies” because the> “enemy in the brush” as I call it…is usually someone close. The more we excel as humans who identify with the spirit having a human experience, the more we supersede the attraction to us of said “enemy in the brush.” We essentially graduate “Red Flag School” with Aces, as we have learned the art of spotting the snake in the grass a mile away. No more do we endanger our lives, or jeopardize our progress, by accidentally allowing some brand of enemy to come around or scope us out. The static interference of the enemy in the brush no longer corrupts the sound system. Crystal clear sharp vibratory frequency then thus ensues, as all the folks in & out of our lives are…the “right ones”>>>kindred spirits.img_4253

When we have developed to a point in our personal evolution, where we are not tarnished or tainted any longer by past hurts or pains from residual effects of former relationships…that means that we have deliberately dug up certain weeds & consciously planted new seeds. We have done this in order to allow ourselves the opportunity to fully breathe again, & to honor our natural birthright to experience life to its fullest.

Humans seem to be so darn good at playing a victim role, self-sabotaging & depriving themselves of their true gifts, talents, joys & pleasures. It’s quite disconcerting. It’s time for us to grow out of these nasty habits & patterns, & replace them with new improved standpoints of being… where we shine way brighter, & tap unlimited resources within us rather than relying on temporal fleeting flawed elements in the material reality. Cosmic consciousness is eternal, infinite & immortal with limitless potentials. I say we learn to pick fruit & flowers from that garden.

Many folks are indeed doing themselves an injustice when they continue to cover up past pain via substance overuse or distractions. The acid reflux of the repressed emotions will continue to haunt & taunt until they are regurgitated completely & discarded &/or the emotional ties are severed via cutting cords. Snip! Snip! Snip! Up, up & out! Up, up & out, my friends. Locate it. Look at it. Let it go. Breathe in the good life. Breathe out what no longer serves you. Inhale prana life force energy. Exhale all toxic densities. Ghosts be gone!

As I stated before, we were born to this beautiful 3-D Earth plane planet to serve each other, lift each other up, not break each other down, or chew each other up & spit each other out. With that said, we must unquestionably have open hearts. What exactly does open heart mean? well, unclogging the Heart Chakra via unearthing & unleashing stuck old harbored hurts, guilts, fears, resentment, shame, pain, bitterness, distrust, disappointment & heartache, would be a nice big fat healthy jump off to the uncloggage process.

A little Chakra Ed 101: The 4th Chakra is the Heart Chakra. The Heart Chakra is located in the chest area, the Heart Chakra bridges the lower and upper chakras. It’s the bridge between the physical and the spiritual. The color of the Heart Chakra is a range of shades of gorgeous green. It is linked with feeling compassion, love, acceptance and gratitude. So when it is closed or repressed, the emotions of compassion, love, acceptance & gratitude are impaired….resulting in the experience of being a prisoner to the “painbody” rather than living a sweet human experience with a sense of excitement, joy & freedom. A closed or semi-closed Heart Chakra will lead to a very unfulfilling existence that indefinitely leads to much suffering, & a slow lonely death, basically.

Chakra is Sanskrit for: spinning wheel. 4809979-small-copyThey are essentially energy vortexes made of light & color that spin & churn energy, transmute it & distribute it accordingly. Opening & cleansing chakras can result in increased physical comfort & significantly improve health & well being. Since we are mainly just focused on the Heart Chakra for now, I will give you a visual so that you may use it as a tool to cleanse & unclog, so to speak.

maxresdefaultThe Heart Chakra is related to the element of air. This is why conscious breathing & the letting go process is so relevant here. So while you are consciously breathing…visualize the green golden spinning light vortex. It spins at medium speed, clockwise. The colors of this chakra are emerald, jade, & teal green shades of a beautiful lush sparkly forest. Located at the very center of your chest, you may focus your attention mindfully. There is a smaller chakra as well called the “Higher Heart Chakra” located to the upper right of the Heart Chakra that spins white hot golden pink firelight. They work in conjunction with one another. The Higher Heart Chakra echoes into the rich vibrant colors of the lushy green forest of the Heart Chakra. Sometimes I like to imagine each chakra as an alive, living,  pulsing many-petalled light-filled flower blooming, if that makes sense. Can you see it? It’s similar to like when time lapse video segments are combined into a one-minute piece, showing a flower growing fast before your very eyes. To me, that is the gorgeous green petalled Heart Chakra. It seems to be… just sat there as if breathing in a state of eternal bliss & blooming. Quite cool actually.

In order for the Heart Chakra to be clean & open it must be properly maintained. Like the engine in a Mazzaratti must be serviced regularly in order to keep it at its full operating capacity for optimal performance. One could say, that the Heart Chakra is the engine of us. It, therefore, must be free of all build up in order to function properly. All its pistons must be free of gunk & lubricated accordingly, in order for the rest of the car parts to function at their best. Past pains keep the heart center either closed or clogged. If the Heart Chakra is not renovated & deliberately opened… then it will warp a person’s emotional reality & stunt their capacity to give & receive love. It will disable their ability to feel good outside of artificial temporal means or the usage of others to feel good like a vulture or vampire.

Love from within comes from the Heart Chakra. Self-love is seated there. The only way a person can be whole in this lifetime & position themselves for superior success on all levels, in every area of life…is to heal & develop the Heart Chakra. Period.

When we learn to become one with our own true identity through this…subsequently, we become free of the belief in scarcity, neediness, greed, & selfishness. We will experience much less grief in the form of dis-ease, suffering, pain, chronic sadness, depression, fear or anger. We will be more inclined to float above, so to speak, the constant undercurrent of human-hood. We will learn how to manage not being caught within the ebb & flow & push/pull of the paradoxical reality of the opposites, consequently letting it affect & dominate our moods & attitudes leading to the Bi-Polar Nation we seem to live in today.

What were once manipulations, now become manifestations instead. We lose the need to manipulate because we have learned how to autonomously manifest our own chosen realities. Who needs to manipulate others & circumstances in their favor if they have harnessed the powers of deliberate creation via the law of attraction from within? Becoming a master manifestor eliminates the need for competition as well, for he knows that there is no need to compare or compete in order to manifest glory or significant increase. There is plenty to go around. One does not have to take away from one thing to give to another. Abundance is just that: Abundant. A master manifestor versus a master of illusion with a poker face… is much more admirable & evolved.

Where we were once inclined to feed off the TV, mindless fruitless activities, food, alcohol, drugs, sex, or any kind of over-indulgent behaviors…such as over-compensating, over eating, over working, over mothering, over gossiping, over spending, over exercising….we are now more inclined to be balanced & to be content with the stillness of the moment. The here & now…as they say.

Living successfully within the present moment, indicates that we have now learned to bask in the sun of the ever present eternal now. Unmoved like a tall strongly rooted tree in the midst of a raging hurricane. Be that eye of the storm, the peaceful calm…in the center of it all. Affirmation: ” I am! The eye of the storm!”

We become masters of our own realities as we have learned to tap source from within as opposed to lookin’ all around & out & about for things outside of us to cleanse our pallets & stimulate our appetite for satisfaction & fulfillment.

As of late, anyone that has been following my journey will know, I have chosen to become Vegan. I am now choosing to only eat vibrant plant-based foods. I have chosen this, not only for the sake of animal rights but by consuming natural earthy elements only,  it assists my soul in evolving more freely & rapidly. Leading to a more peaceful existence undone from the conditioning of the past in such ways via the harsh DNA strands in slaughtered & abused animals, my world shines much brighter & life becomes more of an effortless journey.

The heavyweight of any toxin that may have been a hidden “enemy in the brush” of sorts, concealed & lurking in the foods or liquids I may have been consuming for so long, is now lifted. The elusive threat to my well being is now removed. My spirit is now freer to animate & orchestrate my behaviors, choices, desires, thoughts & feelings accordingly… and my life, body, mind & soul are the beneficiaries thereof.

I am a firm believer in freedom of will & choice. It is up to each of us to discern what our own personal requirements are. Jesus once said: “Know Thyself.” It applies here. If you are to choose to partake of meat & dairy, please choose to do so responsibly. Choose: grass-fed, organic, free-range, humane farm raised everything. And, keep in mind: Moderation=Maturity.

There is an ancient Hermetic quote I like to refer to with regard to these concepts. It is as follows:

“As above, so below; as within, so without. All is mental; all is energy.”

—Hermetic Law

original_etched-apothecary-bottle-kindred-spiritMy advice…stick with your tribe. Life is much more fluid that way. Within the context of a life lived alongside kindred spirits…is joy & peace; serenity & fulfillment at it’s finest. La Dolce Vita! And, one more thing…detox the Heart Chakra…& you will finally realize what you’ve been missing all this time 🙂

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A story about Jack

20150316_174643I had a friend once, he lived in a beautiful loft-like high-rise condo up 15 stories or so…right smack front & center of the beach. Beachfront as they say. Myrtle Beach to be exact. “Dirty Myrtle” as they call it. The gritty Southern twang version of a “what stays in Vegas” underbelly. Myrtle Beach: the Jersey Shore of the South…lol.

3 whole Bike Weeks, an Inlet Coast that stays speckled with local live music venues & Sunday Funday is always spilling well over into the weekdays. Jet skis & jello shots, party boats & casino floats, clambakes & bonfires, DJ’s & dancefloors, fireworks & hot tubs, water slides & wet tee shirt contests…light that underbelly right up in flames. Not to mention the neon girls wearing thong bikini’s strollin’ the strip, flyin’ by on skateboards jiggle jagglin’ what the good Lord gave ’em. It all makes for some saucy people watching. Yessiree-bob…..

Anyway, back to my friend’s beachfront condo…the heavy sliding glass hurricane-proof doors opened out to a balcony overlooking the sea…

The ocean waves crashed practically right down below us, depending on the swell. At night the moonlight was strewn across the ocean waves like a sea of sparkles right in clear view from the kitchen bar stools. He had wicker everywhere, only Pepsi, beer, butter & eggs in his fridge, Stoli Vanilla in the freezer next to sum frozen hot dogs & a cabinet full of Ramen noodles n dog food. He had all kinds of signs hung about, like “kiss me I’m Irish” & “Life is better at the beach”  & also probably upwards of 12 or 20 others, it was quite the collection.

He had a big ole white shag soft & fluffy throw rug by the sliding glass door that one could easily find very inviting. Then for the stoners & stragglers, there was the super comfy crash couch across from the vintage wooden cabinet jukebox that played retro fuzzy recordings of Bob Seger & Foreigner tunes.

I can still hear the waves crashing. It was the background music to life there. All day every day, you had a front row seat to Mother Nature’s bountiful display of Ohm ness…wasn’t I a lucky girl!

We lived together for a brief window of time. He was a good friend. One could say, I crashed at the crib for a bit, when I needed repose. He was my Angel then.

I stayed in the back room with the bunk beds, cause the master had the master. We were buds. And, I was blessed more than ever indeed, to be waking up every morning, to the cool breeze of the blue beach & the shiny sunshine bouncing off waves. Free of charge I might add, with my own key chain & only two daily chores: 1.) walk Rocky the dog. 2.) honor the OCD….lol.

Every morning I would skip down to the breakfast cafe, hop on deck with beachfront benches for some eggs & OJ, the sunrise & slow-motion Reggae. The scent of hot fresh coffee tangled so perfectly with the cool morning salt breeze, it was the sweetest nectar. After only just a few moments of staring out into the deep blue distance, I’d get the Pool-Jones. I would then pounce from the palm tree lined oasis to the pool patio where the 8 foot deep dive down into the gorgeous salt water pool was salacious. Such a sexy sidekick to the sandy dunes it sat right within.

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Yep, that’s right…the condo stood 15 stories up into the sky blue. 15 feet out was the ocean blue. Then 15 stories down was the saltwater pool blue. The perfect place to live. The seagulls were happy. So was I.

I stayed in bikini bottoms. Underwear wasn’t even in my vocab that summer. Tan lines shmanlines...topless it was, if I could help it! I was water-ready at all times & aqua bound most days & most nites even. It was great. Night swimming. Day swimming. Nite drinkin’. Day drinkin’. On a boat. In a pool. At a tiki bar. At the beach. On a balcony, deck or pier, on a towel or a dance floor. In the backseat of a car…oops, did I say that? Definitely, cruisin’ droptop style. And there sure ain’t nothin’ a little healthy Harley ride can’t fix. I hung out. Tough. It was fun. Fun in the sun!

So yea, let me tell ya the real reason I mentioned this cool venture I was blessed to partake of. It wasn’t to brag…lol. Well, maybe a little 🙂

The man I stayed with, we will call him Jack. Jack was a handsome man with a long dirty blonde ponytail, a quik wit & a dry sense of humor who wore surf tea shirts. He was smart, a business owner & kinda jaded by betrayals throughout his life. But he seemed content enough. Livin’ the dream, as they say.

Jack always told me that he didn’t want a girlfriend. He was married once & she took him for a ride, & now that he is older with a thriving little gig, Rocky the grey-bearded royal dog mut & the hottest crib ever (if ya ask me)….who needs the stress or complication of a relationship? …He would smirk & giggle.

“I do what I want, when I want, how I want, with whomever I want, & I don’t owe anyone anything other than a good time on occasion when duty calls…lol.”

“It works for me.” He used to say. “I have friends when I need em, I have the boys to help me run my business, I have a smart & beautiful daughter who is the apple of my eye…& most of all I have my best friend: Rocky the dog…a rescue &  love story like no other. Who needs a wife?”

Check it! The real ROCKY>>>

He’d say…”Companionship is great n all. Good sex is even better. Affection & tenderness is a nice treat once in a while. But this is the way I see it…. remember what Charlie Sheen said?”

And I would say…”What’s that Jack?”

And he said: “Well the courts were sentencing Sheen for using a prostitute & the judge asked him why a man like him would have to pay for sex. So Sheen reportedly replied: ‘I don’t pay them for sex. I pay them to leave!‘ Brilliant, I thought. I’ll– take– that!”

Jack said, “When I wake up in the morning & she is still there…I swat down the stack on the dresser & say: thanks, hon, bye bye now!”

I personally am not a real fan of Charlie Sheen. He’s definitely not your typical role model type. I giggled, but felt offended the first time I heard Jack say that. But, then…all of a sudden, boom! It all became clear. Even sexual deviants have wisdom on occasion, I guess.

So here is what dawned on me…

Let’s revisit the subject of “Prostitution.” I would like to redefine it.

There is a brand of dudes out & about in society, that due to damage, circumstance, profession, preference, age, maturity level, or just sheer independence or choice… that prefer to not have to be engaged or interested or at least, be obligated to be engaged or interested. They might fancy a lady but do not want the bells & whistles. Thee…” wham bam thank you, ma’am, keepin it simple plain Jane Jackson for a nite will suit me just fine“… guy. Yea, that guy

When the few hours are up & the rendezvous subsides, the out of service sign flips on. Jack says: “The action of payment is essentially just like Sheen said….a payment for leaving. The boundaries of a paid timeslot allow both parties to frolic about, be themselves & not have to be concerned with catering to the other outside of it. No expectations exist other than the payment & pleasure. It removes any & all stress, tension, attachment, or tangly emotional ties from the equation.

So…what does “paid to leave” mean actually? The female is getting paid, to essentially keep her feelings at bay. Makes sense, doesn’t it? Since woman are the softer brand of human…it is important for us to know if we do indeed have to practice self-discipline in an area that has always been challenging for us. Getting “paid to leave” gives us that clarity. It makes it perfectly clear that there will be: no strings; no expectations; no emotional ties; no lingering feelings, friendships, or familiarity. It is payment for a fantasy fulfilled without further depth.

68d26d5583d32650705ada54736250c2It is a Rent-a-Lover for a day, hour, or evening & then “clock out, baby, when the gig expires”…with no questions, no lip, no back talk.  No resistance. No drama. No adversity. No disagreement. No opposition. No explanations. No guilt. No apologies. No misunderstandings. No guessing games. We have sealed the deal, & now I am paying you….TO LEAVE. And… that very payment makes it much easier for us to put the kybosh on the crackin’ of the feelings vault, for sure.

It might seem callous or abrasive, but really it’s just rather blunt, is all. It cuts out the coy, beat around the bush demeanor & lays it all right out on the table to be signed by both parties. It’s a contract. It’s a deal. It’s an agreement. It’s fair.  It’s honest, upfront & transparent. It actually makes perfect sense for both sides.

If you are a woman & you can handle the detachment within this kind of sexual connection with a man, then go for it. You may just as well be in a similar position as said gentlemen & would just as well prefer to be “paid to leave.” It is a business agreement that can indeed suit both parties equally if both candidates are on the same page with equal intentions. Furthermore, treating each other with a mutual respect goes without saying.

Neither might have time for a relationship or what not. A woman’s worth is not devalued by the act of payment. the service rendered is actually not the sex, it is the casual non-commitment that goes with it. I can see how honorable it is in a way, that a man feels like it’s only right to compensate a lady for her time & attention if he wants no further commitment past that. He is just being fair, in my book…& honest & behaving accordingly. Props, there Jack…props!

Whereas the one nite stand guy that she met at the bar the other nite who calls her only for booty calls once a week n doesn’t even buy miss thang a candybar…is totally out of line & not acknowledging a woman’s true worth at all. If you pay us to keep it simple, we will. If you do not pay us to keep it simple, we might then end up feeling used, or mistreated if you do not engage, connect or show interest in furthering the relationship. That will create unnecessary static,  conflict & all kinds of issues that can indeed be avoided. if you prefer to have FWB relations only, then compensate accordingly. FWB might not cost you a commitment but it will cost you a fee. Just sayin’…

As long as everybody sticks to the game plan, no one gets hurt. Kinda like a bank robbery. lol. Catching feelings is a no-no in the case of FWB, & should be avoided at all costs, for then the game changes significantly & unless both people start to fall in love mutually, the contract becomes null & void, due to an accidental breach. Otherwise, if they both wanna move it to the next level…FWP (friends with potential) is the next natural move.

The minute the fee is lifted, is the moment two people have decided to go from FWB to FWP. (Friends with benefits to friends with potential) Which can happen.

We are all adults here.

Ladies…some advice: If you are into the NSA (no strings attached) & FWB Sugar Baby lifestyle, it’s all good. But my advice to you, is to find a man you like. Period. Anything less, will leave you feeling subpar. Don’t ever settle.

Gentlemen…If you are going to play with a girls heart…get out of the game.

You have two choices: A.) Be an eligible bachelor who is willing to be engaged & interested with an open heart… or B.) unleash the credit cards & remain anonymously the “Sugar Daddy.” Whatever you do…do not misrepresent yourself, please.

When you approach a hot dog stand…you don’t just stand there looking stupid & expect the food truck guy to guess what you want on your dog. You tell him.

So yea…don’t expect us to guess either. Women deserve to know your intentions. We deserve to know your level of commitment. FWB or FWP. You are either available or not. Indecision is slow poison. Hidden agendas are plain unfair. And, nobody deserves to be taunted with mixed signals. Period.

Jack would say…”watch out kid, for those landmines of red flags!” He often said that I needed to go to “Red Flag School” to learn to spot them better…lol! He said he had the skill to spot red flag city from a mile away. He was a good dude, a great advice giver, & ya know, for such a detached man, he had a very warm heart. I kinda miss that guy…

Let’s mull over some definitions, shall we?

FWB> Not emotionally available

FWP> Open Heart

FWB> Expects nothing other than that each will honor the mutually beneficial agreement with respect & honesty.

FWP> Means there are two open hearts laid out on a table & to go forth & tread lightly, is an understatement. Humans are sensitive creatures & emotions don’t discriminate. Catching feelings is always a delicate subject for a woman or a man.

With that said, it’s only fair gentlemen, to be honest & upfront to any woman crossing your pleasure path. Dig?

Must I repeat that? Cause it’s very simple. It is either black or it’s white in this case. Greyscale leaves too much static & fuzz on the screen of the imagination & leads to wasted time & heartache.

So…state your case. Behave accordingly. We are not a revolving door you can keep walking through over & over again. We are your walkway to satisfaction, freedom & fun, if you know how to communicate like a grown man.

Who likes to watch a black & white Tv with crummy reception? I myself prefer an HD flatscreen. So can you do a lady the service…of wheelin’ in the flatscreen por favor…? It’s a no-brainer really. See for yourself>>

You either take me out & show me a good time, pay my way, my bills, or drop a stack of Bens in my purse pocket…many-100-bills-bundle_77cd5d9b9ae7847a

OR> you choose to meet me halfway with availability, openness, care, consideration, interest, engagement, intimacy & true friendship…& your wallet too, I might add, for all the fun adventures we will end up having together…stock-vector-valentine-s-day-two-people-in-love-holding-hands-cartoon-children-s-drawing-style-series-see-more-68546989

You choose. I will respond.

But DO NOT. I repeat, do not…let us just guess which car you are driving. It’s annoying.

Round of applause for Jack & Charlie. Thanks for the insightfulness.

And thank you… J.L.C.— for being on the fence. It inspired this article.  🙂 (Don’t blush…it’s all good, honey)

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24K Magic in the Air

Uber is sweeping the nation. As of late, I have had the privilege of assisting our community with the mission to keep our friends, neighbors, families & children safe, accident & Dui free via Uber. Pretty cool.

I haul ass pretty much between the hours of 11pm-4Am depending on party & fest stats. It’s a fun job. It teaches financial independence, entrepreneurial spirit, tolerance, patience, & how to un-attach from prior molds of the status quo to be under some kind of “influence” by the wee hours.

Stone cold sober, clear, alert, aware & on top of my game is essential for chauffeuring around a bunch of folks who are essentially relying on you to get them home safe & sound. Although it would be nice to join them sometimes with a fat juiced up martini at the club or bar….it seems to be a bit more rewarding to stay sober & be a late nite travel guide. Usually people are in good moods, high, happy, partnered up, have the munchies, giggly, & sparking with the leftover fever & buzz of a great band, party or dancefloor. I catch that buzz & usually have a little fun bein’ the chic who has the basket of dum dums in the middle console & a funny story to keep them smiling & awake long enough to get home.

I will admit…speed bumps royally suck….& Dui checkpoints frazzle me to this day…the occasional barf shower out my window splat on my car door is kinda gross….but, people are generally good-natured, spirited & fun. There are all kinds out there…believe me.

If you ask if you can give me a kiss as a tip…I probably won’t comply…but, I will take a hug, a handshake, & the leftover dollar bills in your pocket from the bar…:)

Uber Driver Pros: List of my 10 Favs:

1.

Uber saves lives. It’s cheaper than a DUI, even when it’s surging (1-3x the regular fare usually when there is a great need at 2am). When a rider taps the app, it’s all gravy after that, & they are guaranteed a no brainer lift to wherever their little heart desires. There will be no fumbling for payment methods, or figuring out directions, the nifty Uber App is our very own personal assistant for both teams, the rider & driver alike.

2.

Ya basically get to hang out with a bunch of really cool & interesting folks that are essentially on a mission to have a good time. They are on their way to or from a get-together, gala, gig or grab-a-date. Weddings, bachelor or bachelorette parties are the best though! And, if you are typically a “people-watcher” at the mall, you will really get a kick out of all of the fashionable kicks & threads people sport!

3.

Surging times will give the driver at least 20$ an hour. Words of the day: EARNING POTENTIAL. Money, money, money! Did I mention….gettin’ PAID!! $$$$$$$$$$$ lol. In addition to the fact that every single person you refer to the Uber Drive program, will earn you a quick, fast, Ez, extra profit. They sign up, use your CODE……MINE IS>>>> (https://get.uber.com/drive-vs/?exp=vs-t&invite_code=pan4krpbue), make their first 30 trips (which goes by real fast), they get a bonus 50$, you get 150$!!! YES, you heard it right, 150$ smackerooskis…just for relaxing on your recliner & binge watching Game of Thrones. 🙂

4.

It’s a networking machine! For any and all of your little projects you’re trying to promote. Yes, you may pass out your business card or flyer to anyone who will listen…! Yay! Good deal, friends, work this little gig until your big dreams become bigger & burst! That’s the objective 🙂

5.

Although it’s highly recommended & wise to follow the trends of your own community, check flight schedules, have an App to alert you of festivals & concerts, wine tasting, sex toy bar bingo, masquerade contests, beach parties, bands, shows, beer week, salsa nite, square dancing, conferences, plays, or sporting events…..the driver always has the sole prerogative to make his own hours & work as little or as much as he wants. Period. Can’t beat that! BTW….you can work any time of day…surges happen randomly. If you are a mornin’ person, you can shuttle people off to their jobs, and send them off to a good day! People need rides all the time for a myriad of reasons. Anything goes. Wherever & whenever there is a need….strike while the iron is hot, my friends!

6.

My personal fav….NO BOSS! Suck it, Mister Loco man or woman in charge….I GOT THIS. lol. Enough said.

7.

The driver gets to soundtrack the entire experience from start to finish via Pandora, MP3, I-Tunes, Cd’s, Soundcloud, Satellite radio, Spotify, I heart radio (for that occasional news, weather & talk show fix)….& lest us not leave out NPRNational Public Radio is the old standby familiar staple on everybody’s dial. Jazz on Wed nites is the best…Jazz always seems to make passengers feel like they just scored a limo with caviar & crackers. lol. Make it even more fun role play….& get yourself a couple of cool classy hats, & a pressed suit jacket for the ultimate limousine experience for both parties. “24 Karat Magic in the Aaaaayrrree!” as Bruno Mars would say… 🙂

8.

Every single passenger….has either a story, opinion or serious sense of humor. I almost peed my pants on quite a few occasions from the comedian I scooped up from a late nite Hooters outing with his boys…Boobs & Budlite make an already funny dude….even funnier…lol!

9.

Everyone was born & raised somewhere different it seems, &/or lived somewhere for a time. Ask questions. Be an interviewer/investigator. People will give you the 411 on every town, city & state in the US, & sometimes abroad if you’re lucky. And, speaking of 411….You can damn sure expect to be “in the know” about every single hot spot in your town… who’s there, when, where, how much, what time. I can almost guarantee there will be no shortage of intel on the social scene in your community! Pretty soon you can count on being not only the cool Uber travel guide, but a tour guide as well. You will know about everything from, local legends, museums, to farms, to B&B’s, historic landmarks, histories of the area, conservatories, aquariums, Gem shops, Donut shops, bistros, ice cream, coffee, to the corner dive bar with a bomb-ass reputation for good food, local bands & local brews. You will be the on-the-go, go-to source for all things social friendly.

10.

Last but not least…two things> A) getting paid for being on an adventure that changes daily & (changes your life to boot), is always a pretty cool deal. B) When we are in the driver’s seat, we have the ultimate opportunity to bring Light & Love into people’s lives. It is a platform to share or spread joy, lend an ear or caring heart, encourage, positively influence, help, nurture, nourish or guide anyone that has the luck of landing in the passenger seat. That in & of  itself, makes it all worthwhile. Heck, I get guidance too…for sure. We all get blessed on the short or long ride, in some way shape or form. It’s a win/win.

Now, if that isn’t enough to persuade you to sign up to drive today, use my promo code, grab an extra 50 bucks while embarking on a new lucrative adventure…..then I don’t know what is! lol

Not to mention, the only places that seem to be open past 2Am are diners, Cook-Out, maybe Taco Bell, depending on what state…. & without fail: dunt da da da! A NY style pizza joint &/or Dominos…ofcoarse! When the belly growls after drivin’ for 4 hours on a Saturday night, you can bet your mama, that one intoxicated happy camper will bless you with sum GRUB! lol

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Crazy Diamond!

There is nothing deeper than the ability to feel. Feeling requires a conscious choice to have an affectionate connection to life & living. All the noise, static, confusion, distraction, or negativity that exists though, on the other hand, does not have to be considered if one does not wish to consider it. Our choice is our choice. Choice is a cool feature we own as humans. We get to choose everyday in every way, what we are thinking, giving attention to, or allowing ourselves to consider. If I allow myself to dwell too long on a thing that has outlived its usefulness with regard to resolution & closure, I will be then unconsciously choosing to hold on to the past. Holding on to anything too long, that has out lived its purpose, can be dangerous to our health & wellness. A person, a relationship, a memory, an idea, a goal, a dream, a fantasy, an expectation, a plan, a job, a personal program, a habit, a pattern, a material item, a desire, a disappointment, a loss, a death, an unexpected change or transition, an experience, an event, a trauma. All those things serve us for a time. It is our job to know when that time expires. For in being in tune with “the process” we then cultivate a keen ability for practicing the art of letting go at right perfect times. Not too soon, not too late. We intuitively know, when we have internalized it enough to move on… or… we know that we may have to unearth it more, to deal with it further, experience the emotions tied to it further, in order that we may be able to fully let it go. There is a fine line, between letting it go or just  burying it. It has  to be fully felt. It has to be heard. Let it make you scream & yell, wine & cry, bitch, complain or rant! Let it come out, all the way, and face it, head on, head strong, with sword & shield in hand. For only in doing so, do we allow it to live itself out of us until it’s gone.

It will have no more power. Why? Because we weren’t scared of facing it. We felt it, dealt with it, contended with all its unruly emotions, and instead of resisting it, we became a tree rooted firmly in the ground through its storm. We didn’t choose to bury it so it could then continue to have some kind of underlying secret power over us for as long as we let it chip away. Jabbing us with slurs and whispers of doubts & insecurities from its underground throne inside of us, where we nurse its existence with guilt, regret, fear or attachment. There is no way to possibly move forward in this life with a sense of security, if we are choosing to hold on to a thing that has outlived its purpose.

FYI, The “stuck past” doesn’t discriminate:) Today, let’s all choose to allow anything moving through our lives, to indeed move through. Fully, completely, until it’s all through, all out, and we ultimately proceed to escort its disruptive ass, out the damn door. For good. Forever. No matter how big or small its meddlesome butt may be….

Cause life is too short, to live in some form of denial, on any level. Rock it out! Whatever it is. And then keep going.

I am learning this skill…because at this stage of the game, I have no choice but to Shine on! Like a Crazy Diamond! Thanx, Gav, for that awesome chime in…..;) One of God’s greatest gifts to man is choice! But it is also, Friends….:) Old & new! Thank you for your presence in my life….

So grateful,

Zapp

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