The Twelve Step Program is outdated.

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Attention: all those who wish to be liberated from the limiting beliefs & restrictions of backwards doctrines. Whether it’s religion, or Narcotics Anonymous or a program being imposed (inflicted) upon our children via secular school curriculum. Today, I will talk NA, for the sake of the countrywide “crisis” we now face as a Nation, & quite frankly, also as a worldwide race, sinking deeper. Pull up a chair. Check your ego at the door. Hear me out.

Since this is the day & age where Opioid addiction has become so prevalent & destructive that it has been declared a National Health Emergency by our current President, I believe that this conversation is very necessary. The Opioid crisis spans waaaaay back in time. I guess people are just noticing, all of a sudden? I guess it’s time for the government to capitalize on it, jump in on the greed game, with Big Pharma, rehabs, doctors, & detox facilities. They must have felt left out. (mmm-hmmm)  Regardless of the reason or timing or motive, this article is about a much more important topic. It’s about how Twelve-Step Programs are outdated, & quite frankly, in my seasoned opinion… sabotaging people to stay stuck on a merry-go-round for the remainder of their “clean & sober” lives as a “Recovering Addict.”

Even though Twelve-Step programs are the most accessible formats offered in our society, to assist those attempting to get & stay clean, they are not the most effective. Would you like me to repeat that? Twelve-Step programs seem to be in place everywhere. More or less, they are the leading protocol for all recovery seekers, however, just like old outdated programs in the mind that need adjustment, so does this program of protocol in our society that says: Twelve-Step programs are the be all end all best solution to maintaining a clean life. That is a misconception that has been ingrained into our society.

Even though the Twelve-Steps can be very effective for many people in need of guidance, redirection, or respite, as they contain a workable formatted guideline to redefine your journey… they are written with an outdated perspective. Comparable to the many wild mythologies & parables of the Bible that are racist, sexist & outdated & certainly would be much more understood & relevant if revised to meet a modern morale & standard.

The Big Blue Book has the right ideas, & contains plenty of nutrient rich intel, don’t get me wrong, but still… if we look at the big picture, certain outmoded content needs to be significantly altered in order to avoid the pitfalls of the past (the revolving door) & ultimately attain better results, going forward. “If we do what we’ve always done, we will get what we’ve always gotten.” Hmmmmm… don’t I recall that poster hanging on the wall of every rehab, detox & meeting? NA, needs to follow it’s own advice.

The Twelve Steps need to be adjusted & rewritten to meet a new improved standard of accountability that speaks more to our empowerment than to our powerlessness… at the very least. It’s 2017-18… I’m surprised no one has done that yet, frankly. Aren’t you? Well, after some Google research, it seems there are a few revisions here & there, but unfortunately, nothing was ever universally implemented.

Meetings are everywhere, especially for the weary. In any city, state, & country one finds themselves… no doubt, there’s a meeting down the street there. NA & AA is a HUGE organization with a cult-like following. I get it. But, true recovery is an inner journey. If people are not redirected properly, they will end up latching on to anything they can get their hands on, including meetings & other people going through the same thing. This usually poses a threat to our sobriety, because people are essentially not outgrowing dependence at all, but reinforcing it instead. No longer reliant on drugs or alcohol to get by, now they are reliant on people & a flawed culture of people that keep announcing aloud: they are addicts. On top of the fact that these groups are likely filled with a shit-ton of ex-cons, thieves, liars, & manipulators with criminal behavior & addictive personalities who very well likely relapse frequently. Who very well likely seek comfort through sex, or ban together to do more dirt than what got them there in the first place. Which at the very least, is counterproductive. I’ve witnessed & experienced this first hand, over & over.

Yes, Twelve-Step programs are free. meetings are free. It’s the most accessible means in any community, to connect people to recovery resources, aide, or help for sobriety. It’s like a big church of sorts, for any kind of addict to attend. They welcome everyone without judgement or discretion. Remarkable indeed, but it still doesn’t change the fact that once a person walks through that door, they are expected to do two things to remain there. One: admit they are an addict over & over again by stating aloud “I am an addict” every time they announce themselves to talk… and two: buy into the belief that addiction is a disease. Both of these concepts are counterproductive & are not accurate within the context of Universal Law.

Universal Law states that the I Am principle of deliberate creation is how we harness & own our divinity/personal power. Stating: I am an addict, over & over, each time you verbally represent yourself to others…. is sabotaging the mind to believe you are still an addict. Would you like me to repeat that?  It’s complete opposite of what living a clean life aims for. “I am a recovering or recovered addict,” would be more suitable. But, even then, the I am statement is still making a declaration that is essentially keeping that person trapped in some kind of stereotype of recovering addict persona. The goal is: to change how we identify ourselves. If twelve step people are constantly identifying themselves & others as addicts in or out of recovery, then they will just be stuck within an identity that is limiting. We are in the business of redefining who we are, so that we do not see ourselves as that addict or that struggling person in recovery. We must change the way we view ourselves & our lives & paths, with our imagination & creative visualizing faculties. We will see results faster & easier & we will make significant lasting progress rather than temporary baby steps that likely get lost & buried within the next relapse. And oh, I can almost assure you… there will be a next relapse.

From a self-proclaimed non-Twelve-Step successfully recovered person’s point of view (mine)>>>>> I sincerely believe, going forward, that non-Twelve-Step programs are so instrumental to effective change in the recovery community. For anyone that wishes to stop being a serial repeater of the same patterns & then relapsing incessantly… there’s only one choice: seek your local non-Twelve-Step program. Make sure it’s legit. There’s financial assistance out there, don’t believe the hype that says there’s not. It’s accessible to you, no matter what class or race or ethnicity you are. Make it happen. No excuses.

Regarding that “disease” notion…. I strongly disagree. A disease is typically described as something either terminal or acquired unexpectedly without our consent, not chosen. Addiction, though predisposed to some extent due to genetics… it is still not a disease. Calling it a disease is putting a label on it that makes it sound inescapable, terminal or something out of our control. Addiction is none of those things. The Twelve Steps teach that we are powerless over our addiction. But, this is a false statement. Once in the throes of the active compulsion of addiction itself, we are powerless in a sense, for we are being possessed by our insatiable desires. But, once we detox from whatever the obsession is… then we gain back our power & can thus exercise our own authority then to rise above the compulsion that once controlled us. We can consciously choose to reverse the damage by changing how we view ourselves, life & the word addiction.

Addiction is not a disease, it’s a temporary compulsion that can be transformed & channeled into a more balanced personal stability via self-love, physical activity, meditation, creative visualization, lots of emotional purging & cleansing & ultimately the rewiring of the mind. No one said it was a quick fix. But, it doesn’t have to take forever either. And the Twelve-Step program is not the most efficient road to recovery. It’s definitely flawed, on many levels. Calling addiction a disease, is keeping people stuck. Point blank.

Choose life. Choose freedom. Choose to name yourself not “addict” but, person with a message on a mission with a plan & a purpose. A person who graduated from the sting of addictive behaviors & moved to the next level because they wanted to, chose to, consciously, deliberately chose to, because they were sick of being sick & tired. If u want to be rich, hang out with rich people. If u want to be a successful human being with little or no vices, then hang with people who practice believing in greater things, talking about greater things, moving in brighter directions while leaving the past behind. Not a bunch of poor me’s in a room, all gathered together chatting about war stories all the time, smoking cigarettes, & drinking watered down sugared coffee with powdered faux creamer. Folks who gather there are typically validating negative patterns & practices & reinforcing bad behaviors by & through always running over the same ground together. And, it is made worse when the fraternizing is done with the newbies that are still likely in the throes of their addiction secretly, or very close to it anyway.

I know Twelve-Step programs mean well, but many times they can be a cesspool of seriously unhealed dysfunctional people with problems, criminals, ex-cons, drug dealers & users alike. And since sex is not against the law, these dysfunctional people without their main vice, now gravitate toward each other, to fill up the empty spaces. It’s a big shitshow, if ya ask me. A big shitshow with no qualified leader at the helm…with any kind of behavioral, spiritual or psychological credentials. The speaker that day, is essentially just a person who is another “Addict” just one drink or drug away from full blown relapse, no matter how many days or years clean they may have accumulated. As if this will ground them to their sobriety, they stay with a coin in their pocket or a colored key chain to remind them of the collection of days they have under their belt, when in truth, all it is, is plastic or medal. What counts is what’s within. The rooms don’t keep us clean… it’s the development & strengthening of our inner sanctum that does.

I get it, though. I’m not trying to be mean. I’m just not a fan. I am not denying that AA & NA have saved millions of lives throughout their days on the scene. It’s a program that works if you work it indeed. But, it’s certainly not fail-safe, & it certainly could be cleaned up, (no pun intended), to be a lot more effective, if ya ask me, like re-wording the Twelve Steps etc. Stop calling addiction a disease & defining it as a terminal thing people are stuck with for the rest of their lives. And, stop making people identify themselves as the “I am an addict” persona. It’s totally counterproductive. To the max. We need to teach people life skills, coping skills & how to tap resources from within, as opposed to moving from one crutch to the next. A street drug to a prescription drug. Teaching people to “surrender to a disease” is a funny way of teaching people self-empowerment, don’t ya think?

It’s time for people to start recognizing how addictive behaviors are formed & implemented in a person’s life, so we can see how to prevent that going forward. What’s the root cause? The root issue? What’s so empty inside? Where’s the location of the emptiness? Is it mere boredom? Or is it more gripping like… hopelessness or helplessness? Where does the fear lie? Anger, hatred, resentment, sadness, regret, guilt, madness, confusion, depression, aggression, greed, fear, scarcity, lack, limitation, self-loathing, mistrust, instability, insecurity, fear of failure, fear to succeed, lack of self-worth or self-confidence. Find the source of the grief & work it out. Because, that’s the sure culprit of any compulsion.

The more we feed a compulsion, the more the brain’s chemistry & climate changes to accommodate the mind-altering substance or activity, which means the brain begins to become malnourished, poisoned, lazy, mismanaged & ultimately wires & signals get all kinds of crossed. Which also means, it will take more work to inevitably dig out. Hence, rigorous mind-body-spirit overhaul, which will likely take years to undertake in order to see real results.

The brain is a computer of sorts that is very susceptible to toxicity, just like our bodies. Ya can’t expect to continuously poison the body with preservatives, high fructose corn syrup, hydrogenated oils, trans fat, straight sugar & sodium for a long period of time without consequences. Eventually the body begins to change its chemistry & break down. Diabetes, stroke, heart attack, obesity & depression will thus ensue. The only way to combat the toxicities & reverse the damage, is to quit cold turkey, the consumption of all toxic food & drink, & nurture & nourish the body back to health with exercise, lots of water, healthy leafy greens, fruits, veggies… prayer/meditation, & practicing new improved habits. Eventually, the blood pressure will even out, the cholesterol number will level, the diabetes can reverse, the excess weight will drop off, an air of joy will begin to replace depression, & sloth will certainly turn to ambition. But it takes, time, discipline & dedication. It doesn’t happen overnight. The longer the body had been exposed to the toxicities, the more damage has been done, hence the longer it will take to undo. Sage advice: Practice patience… she will be your most treasured pet & ally. Treat her kindly.

Persistence, dedication, commitment, willpower & self-empowerment via self-improvement will win back all personal freedom & reinstate a new lease on life that will graduate a person to a whole new level composed of immeasurable great heights. Soaring potentials realized. Regarding addiction, compulsions, obsessions, diseases, illnesses, sickness, distress, worry, regret over the past or anxiety over the future. Whatever the hell needs to be addressed & renovated… faith in our personal Divine capacity to co-create change, with the powers that be (God-Force/Love/Light)… will be our SOLE SALVATION.

Don’t be an amateur.

Peace.

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Recovery Resources/Services/Hotlines (non Twelve-Step)

  • What Addicts Know: 10 Lessons from Recovery to Benefit Everyone by Christopher Kennedy Lawford
  • American Addict (2012) & The Big Lie: American Addict 2 (2016) (Documentaries)
  • Recovery: Freedom From Our Addictions by Russell Brand (His newest book 2017)
  • http://www.smartrecovery.org/ Smart Recovery/Self-management for addiction recovery>>> “Discover the power of choice!”

SMART Recovery is the leading self-empowering addiction recovery support group. Our participants learn tools for addiction recovery based on the latest scientific research and participate in a world-wide community which includes free, self-empowering, science-based mutual help groups.

SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training) is an international non-profit organization which provides assistance to individuals seeking abstinence from addictive behaviors. The approach used is secular and scientifically based using non-confrontational motivational, behavioral and cognitive methods. Meeting participants learn recovery methods derived from evidence-based addiction treatments. Substance/activity dependence is viewed by the organization as a dysfunctional habit (rather than a disease), while allowing that it is possible that certain people have a predisposition towards addictive behavior.

The SMART Recovery 4-Point Program helps people recover from all types of addiction and addictive behaviors, including: drug abuse, drug addiction, substance abuse, alcohol abuse, gambling addiction, cocaine addiction, prescription drug abuse, sexual addiction, and problem addiction to other substances and activities. SMART Recovery sponsors face-to-face meetings around the world, and daily online meetings. In addition, our online message board and 24/7 chat room are excellent forums to learn about SMART Recovery and obtain addiction recovery support.

[Those admitted to our San Diego rehab often tell us that they struggle with the labels of “disease” “alcoholic” and “powerlessness.” Also, wording contained within the 12 Steps makes reference God, and this can be alienating for individuals who are secular, or whose sense of faith has been weakened.

AToN Center is a program that was founded on non-12 Step treatment principles. Therefore, our Center was designed as an evidence-based best practice model for treatment of addiction free from the barriers many people experience with 12 Step only treatment programs. AToN

Center’s San Diego rehab offers Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) as the clinical underpinning to all of our groups. We discuss an individual’s potential to change from the basic premise that in order to change behavior, you first need to change your thinking and learn emotional regulation skills.]

  • http://www.addicted.org/ Complete data base for recovery>> Excellent reference for non-12-step & low-cost programs for your specific state.

Toll free: 1.800.304.2219

  • http://www.drugrehab.org Biophysical Rehabilitation, Homeopathic and Alternative Options, and Non-12 StepDrug Rehab. Drug-free Detox.

Toll free:  1.877.958.9345

  • Dr. Phil Show
    325 N Larchmont Blvd, Suite 602
    Los Angeles, CA 90004 (writing a letter is the best way to reach him)
  • If you need help finding mental health services and support in your community contact: National Mental Health Association Information Center: nmha.org
  • National Suicide Hotline 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255)
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233)
  • National Child Abuse Hotline 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453)
  • Gulf Breeze Recovery’s THRIVE: Total Health Recovery Program is Changing the Face of Addiction Treatment! (Non-Twelve Step)

350 Pensacola Beach Blvd
Gulf Breeze, Florida 32561
Phone: 1 (855) 220-6677
Email: kat@gulfbreezerecovery.com

  • www.sanctuary.net The Sanctuary at Sedona: integrative addiction recovery (Create freedom from: Alcohol; Cocaine; Opiates; Marijuana; Prescription Drugs; Codependency; PTSD; Depression; Anxiety. Repair the brain. Heal the body. Recover the soul.) For more info call: 877.710.3385 (Non-Twelve Step)

Believing in your Dreamz: A commentary

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Anyone can write a book.

Whatever that book may be… it has to be believed in. If the Author doesn’t believe in the book, it will get lost in the sauce, get the shaft, & most likely be archived on a dusty shelf some place. That said, authoring a book & then standing behind it, takes a bit of brawn, a bit of courage, a bit of belief, & a bit of serious faith, especially when the content of the book was built from your own core convictions. In this case, the required level of faith is much more significant.

I can’t hide behind an imaginative fictional story I made up. Instead, it’s raw, real, authentic & uncensored, like when a person wear’s their heart on their sleeve sorta thing. I’m putting myself out there so to speak. It takes a bit more bravery & just a dash more dignity. It’s like when a comic jumps on stage for her debut & thinks: “But what if no one laughs?!” And then against all odds, she’s puts ’em all in stitches & makes ’em pee their pants. I won’t make ya pee your pants. But I will shmooze ya with good humor & wild oats. But hey, if ya wanna pee your pants, it’s all you, bra…

I am a one man band that uses all readily available tools to publish my work independently. Self publishing is widely accessible & user-friendly in our current culture. It looks like a bunch of people do it all the time, & somehow it looks easy & effortless. Well, it’s certainly not. It’s a thorough undertaking that must be meticulously crafted & flawlessly executed, & that takes a conscious awareness & core commitment that is unprecedented. Just sayin’…

I’m not trying to boast. I’m not here to conquer, compare or compete. I’m sure there is something for everyone out there in the great mega-verse melting pot of vast sprawling publications. As an Author with a mission, & a message, I’d like to acknowledge how  we are now spotting the map quite generously these days. There’s also quite an emergence of those of us rockin’ enterprises such as seminars, retreats, programs, plans, workshops, cruises, classes, speaker forums, & live symposiums that are extensions of our books.

Everybody claims to have the answer. Everybody’s got the secret formula. Everybody’s got the trendy assessment or clever fix. Everybody’s got the perfect route to freedom & fortune. Everybody’s a coach, mentor & motivational leader. Everybody’s got that thing that everybody else wants. And believe me, I think that this wildly exuberant display of global self expression is glorious. Furthermore, freedom of the press, speech, & religion via the First Amendment is also glorious.

I’m all for these inspiring schools of thought & brands of armchair philosophy, hard core study or just plain depth of life experience. But, there is so many of these self proclaimed gurus now-a-days. We are popping up everywhere it seems, with a website & a buy now button. I’m guilty. We all seem to want to give sage advice, teach tight programs & strategic success plans. It can indeed be over whelming. Instead of seeing that one shiny gem, it blends all together instead like a big fat blinding blob.

Reaching people is an Author’s forte, & making a positive difference with every page turned, is the dream realized. We write because it is our passion. We write because we feel there is a need in our community for what we have to say. Folks are always striving to be better people in some way. People are always looking for improvements & ways to make their lives easier, brighter, balanced, healthy, wealthy, enjoyable, organized, & efficient with more time & less stress & worry.

I’ve stood in long lines to catch sum of those good rays, from all the greats. My bookshelves are buckling & my folders, favorites, & emails are madly multiplicitous with said self-proclaimed gurus. I’m a fan. I’m super supportive of all these self liberating trains to paradise, for sure. Choo! Choo! All aboard! And as much as I do indeed support everybody else’s dreams, I am here today to specifically endorse mine.

So then, before you hop any other train, wait right here first & let me show you something that may be a better deal. Allow me to buff out the blurr & hone in on my little shiny book gem. Not to toot my own horn, but, the new book I’m about to launch just may well be all you need to move forward on any path of personal of development. Brace yourself… here comes that special author belief thing I mentioned earlier… 🙂

>>>>>The principles in the book ooze enthusiasm for life lived in thee most advantageous way. With unhindered advancement, uninhibited character, & unbridled energy, said Author (me)… will bedazzle you with her flow. And, I am not just saying that cause I’m her. 🙂 The reader will benefit thereof, instantly… without having to make a commitment to a project, program, schedule, timetable, or special engagement, & without having to purchase a ticket for a show, take off, attend some pricey weekend retreat or sign up for a webinar yay long & with yay one-time-fee. Not to mention, said reader will be entertained the whole way through with comic relief that is woven right in so silky smooth… like Fluff-a Nutt-a Butt-a & a brotha from anotha motha…

I’m not gonna give my book away for free. My TM teacher back in the 90s, told us that he was charging each of us a fee for the program, because he believed that if ya invest in something, you will be more likely to pay attention, take it seriously, & thus take advantage of it. Turned out to be true. As a result, I diligently learned the skill of Transcendental Meditation effectively at that time. I practice it to this day. I’d say that it was worth every penny. That said, the cost of my book will be reasonable & better yet, like you scored it on the buried discount rack in the far corner of Books-a-million on a rainy day with a scone & cinnamon latte in hand.

I’m writing this little briefing to invite people in. If you are pretty much alone in the world like me, weird things go through your mind like, what if no one shows up? What if no one cares? Not having a significant other, parents, brothers, sisters, cousins, kids or a close circuit of local friends & family that you know for sure will be there indefinitely to support you… kinda feels a little risky to say the least. And no… I don’t belong to a Church. And no.. that’s not what I need or something. Love when people say that. Anyway, basically… I have nothing to lose, everything to gain, & I would be a damn hypocrite, if I didn’t move forward on my path fearlessly despite the whistling tumble weed.

My #1 fan has paws & a tail & if Miss Moose the cat could talk & type, she would be my advocate & agent, I’m quite sure. Special thanks to all my wonderful colleagues & sweetheart clientele at the restaurant, for being so interested & supportive of the fierce creative endeavor I’ve embarked upon with untamed spirit. And to all my friends, fam & loyal fans spread out across the miles, who continue to read, give feedback & show love… your presence is Golden

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This new much anticipated book I’m about to launch, is about living your dreams & manifesting prosperous winnings every moment of every day from here on out… from the inside out. So if that is what I set out to do, than by God, Sally… I’m gonna do it! No matter what the little cretin nitpicking voices yip yap inside my head… the thick brawn of this Author… will believe & achieve with sure SUCCESS. I won’t accept anything less at this point. You are either in it to win it, or not in it at all, in my view.

That said, you are invited to join me on the crusade to vibrate at a higher frequency, be best versions, & live life to the fullest. All ya have ta do, is grab your copy as soon as it pops on the scene.

And, to all those who are ready to win it!
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Autumn 2017

Magnetic Prosperity

The dawn of dreams

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Ode to an Asshole: A Soliloquy

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Isn’t it a funny thing how the word asshole doesn’t discriminate? Anyone can be one.

Ode to an Asshole: (poem by Me)

Well send me to school without a lunch, there, lean mean Bo bean Bart…. I’m just an innocent bystander not a board for your dart. Holy mosquita, Rita! What’s in this puddin’ that’s so sour? I’m beginning to leak out my positivity, sanity & power. My brain feels like it might-a fell out around the last bend. I almost forgot how engagement with stupidity, is just a means to an end.

Fetch my scuba gear, Cap-in, cause I’m goin’ in deep. No egocentric bobble head is gonna pounce on my camp & steal my beer while I sleep. Terrorize some other unsuspecting target, ya ratchet piece of shit pie fuck, my time is a precious realm of relevant things, not good vibes you can squelch, snarl at & suck.

Keep your succubus blames & trivial oligarchy to yourself, ya jibber jabber in the corner Chris. You’re cramping my style, fudging my flow & patronizing my bountiful bliss. I suggest ya quell your unearthed issues, petty gossip drama & senseless bullshit… sweetheart honey. Or I reckon the hater hazmat team will toss your car & crib like your hidin’ their diamonds & money.

Hey there soul crushin’ Kyle, your tactics are way out of style. Get back in your cave if you forget how to behave. Get back on your square if you don’t know how to care. Stay in your lane, if your bitch ass can only complain. I’m not a bean bag that you think you can toss. Make one more fool hardy move & it’ll be your big bad hairy loss… there boss.

Threaten me again, & I will call my friends, the fuzz. They’ll knock your pie in the sky claims… clean into tomorrow, Cuz. Karma’s a bitch, she’s got a shit list yay thick & you’re on it in several places, son. Cause you’ve taken my kindness for weakness, & I sure ain’t in holy hot hell or high water …… the one.

Copyright 2017 JZapp

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Jar of Hearts

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Yes, I do have a jar of hearts on my shelf… alongside a jar of bruised egos. If your heart is so tender & flimsy that it can be broken by a woman whom you’ve never had a chance with in the first place… your heart deserves to be pickled in the pain of a jar. Second, that ego that’s beaten & bruised wining like a little bitch in the corner with a blue bonnet on & a taffy… disguised as sumthin’ harmless…. should be ashamed of itself for even existing.

Wipe the drool off your face & smack the dirty smirk right down the drain of your vampire stare, your dorm daze are over. No more secret cameo appearances in the scenes of my life. Take your blankie & go suck sum one else’s energy field with unwanted attention. Your greedy ulterior motives can take a hike right down the highway to hell.

The jar of bruised egos up on my shelf is now capped & vacuumed shut like a poisonous canned sauce. No getting out or in. Just a trip to the river will do. A heavy toss out the window into the air of contention, will disarm you. No more taking up space on my shelf. And as for the jar of hearts there? I will feed them to the frogs out back. All the ones I’ve kissed.

I’m done….! Zip, zap, over, ca-put, ca-pat, cap-plew-ey…. with drawing all wrong dudes. Let me be Medusa to their intentions. Let their ill vibes shrivel up in the heat of my Zen zone. Let their raunchy fantasies be smashed into smithereens by my laser sharp intuition. Let their insecurity, insincerity, lack of self-control, hidden motives, disguised disrespect and  self-aggrandizing disposition ban together to go gather sum sticks & thorns into bouquets for their own funeral.

In my life, there is no place for your face. Thank you for walking right passed me from now on. I dodge man bullets. There should be a master class on dodging man bullets. Its easy. I could teach it.

I do not accept any adverse advances. I am admired, respected, & recognized for my talent, skills, abilities, style, intellect, presence & shining spirit. My sexual energy is innately powerful. I own it. I don’t have to share it just because you think I should. I don’t automatically become your whore on a stick that you can have at your disposal just cause your dick is hard & your feeling confident. Crawl back into your cave of trolls. Looking seems to have become a form of lurking… & sorry honey… but to touch is a bonified privilege that you have not earned.

For the record… ya know another privilege you did not earn? Talking dirty to me or cursing at me or telling me to shut up or demanding either my attention, answer, or compliance. I don’t owe you shit just cause you buy me a drink or pay me a compliment. Just because I may exhibit or express a beautiful, sexual, striking, attractive, alluring, strong, or lovable female presence, doesn’t give any man a right to cross boundaries. Just because a woman is comfortable with her identity, doesn’t give every Tom, Dick & Harry… a green light to drive up onto her lawn & snap a bunch of pictures. Stay in your own lane. Keep your grimy hands to yourself, your creepy comments to the bathroom wall & try your luck elsewhere, buddy.

Wash your ashtray mouth out with soap & take your beer breath to the next bar. I’m not your girl. I’m not your one. I’m not the answer to your dreams. I’m not your fantasy come true. I’m not your third-party solution to your marital problems. I’m not a swinger. I’m not a hooker. I’m not your recreational hookup. I’m not your toy. I’m not your booty call. I’m not sum floozy you can swing your limp dick at or shove your tongue into. I’m not your obsession. I’m not your drug. I’m not your dumping station, punching bag or rag doll. And I’m certainly not your therapist or sex teacher. Get over yourself. What kind of woman would I be… if I allowed any of that? I’d be a clueless asshole… just like you. Next please….

Do me a favor? Take your baggage, issues, dysfunctional emotions, clogged chakras, unresolved past relationships, fraudulent friendship, spiritual desert, anger management, contempt for women, ulterior motives & ill intentions & make like a drum & beat it. Make like a tire & hit the road. Make like a banana & split. Make like a bird & flock off. Let’s just pretend I have a giant mean ex-con bodyguard boyfriend who will wipe that dirty grin right off your filthy face… if you come any closer.

Thanks, but no thanks. I was trying to be nice. But Mr. nice guy went right out the window with the little lady who pretends like your shit is kosher, appropriate or acceptable. Next time you even remotely think… of coming at me in any kind of improper way…. think again. Because…. me & Miss Karma are sisters. We bust egos, break hearts, teach hard lessons & speak uncomfortable truths. Brutal honesty is our forte & vultures & vampires we eat for dinner. Don’t play with fire.

I am one phoenix engulfed in flames that you do not want to mess with. This bitch will poke your eyes out & pan sear your penis. To all the men out there… a word of advice: watch who u cross. You never know who you’re dealing with.

Women come from all walks of life. Many are traumatized, have P.T.S.D., have been abused; assaulted; discriminated against; used; hurt; harmed; disrespected; mistreated; manipulated; cheated on; betrayed; berated; beat; violated; abandoned; abused; oppressed; repressed; scolded; controlled; screamed at; belittled; degraded; damaged; & quite frankly… suffered at the hands of a man.

In neon big bold letters>>>>WATCH WHO YOU CROSS…. gentlemen. Cause u may cross the wrong one. And, it will not be your lucky day.

Written by: JZapparelli

Circa: Summer 2017

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The “Grim Zapper”

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“Vultures” John Mayer  Click here for a little background music for your reading pleasure 🙂

I sometimes feel threatened by the idea that certain kinds of people exist in this world who walk the Earth. I do realize that the protective power of faith and love can literally walk a man through a field of racing bullets virtually unscathed. But, that’s not always the case.

With that said, it seems we may never know quite when or how these leeches dressed as leprechauns  will cross our paths & we will have to conduct ourselves accordingly. In such an instance then, we must act to repel an obtuse demeanor or gritty vibration.

Karma has a way of being a mysterious animal & we may never know when the hands of fate are gonna reach out and twist ours by tossing an unruly irreverent character up in the mix. I guess it could be said, that it’s fun when life throws ya a lil challenge here or there. But this kind of challenge doesn’t seem fun to me. This kind of challenge spells “Danger” with a capital D. These people test all your stability, integrity, fortitude, quick-wit & strength. These persons I speak of are nothing like fun. They breed social asphyxia, stirring poison into the pot….secretly. A wolf in sheep’s clothes some say even, due to the fact that in most cases, these personalities are very skilled manipulators. I won’t glorify them much more than that.

There have been times I felt like “The Grim Zapper.” Times when I felt like I had to quick flip the dark hooded robe overhead & whip out my proverbial sharp shiny sickle made of justice to slash away the many weeds that keep attempting to block my progress or clutter my path. I’m talking about people, this time, not thoughts. These “people weeds” grow and tangle to form traps or knotty nests that can trip us up, get us stuck and essentially impede our progress. I know I am not imagining it. They definitely exist. It’s not just some big giant illusory conspiracy I just made up. Not everyone is present with good vibes & proper intentions. Acknowledging that… is warrior wisdom.

No person is “bad” really. I’m a firm believer in redemption, atonement, karmic reversal, forgiveness and change. I do think that humans just keep reincarnating over and over again upon this Earth until they begin to evolve into lighter freer creatures set apart from any and all dark forces that they may have karmically patterned themselves with throughout their time travels. Maybe once in a while there may appear to be that one soul that doesn’t seem redeemable. But I’m sure if that’s the case, hypothetically there could be some weird realm that exists where he or she is welcome to hang out in until they decide otherwise. Limbo, hell, some dark devilish painful torture chamber underground burning in fire for all eternity made of fallen angels, forsaken sad saints and groveling doomed suffering troll souls… I doubt it. But, if such realms exist so to accommodate souls that keep choosing to use their human experience to descend deeper into darkness and serve “evil” well then, so be it. I still think there is a way out of there if one so desires at some point. “Eternal Damnation” is not something that makes sense to me if indeed all religions teach about a loving God who always forgives. At the end of the day though, “if it doesn’t apply, let it fly.” A person would have to be a serial evil doer with absolutely no remorse, to be initiated into that clan. Makin a few mistakes or even big mistakes throughout your lifetime doesn’t qualify you for “hell.” lol

Anyway, for now, let’s just say that typically, all people can be measured on an invisible scale of healthy to toxic. Depending on where a person falls on that scale, is how we are able to discern their relevance to our lives. Personally, I prefer to draw people to my life who are generally healthy, of a higher brighter vibratory frequency, and who have graduated their own life path from harsh mistakes, lurid lessons, and darker states to a freer, attuned, aligned, self-loving, self-aware, self-care mode of operation. I prefer the kind of people that generally choose to be free and whole and happy most of the time with a propensity towards tapping “Source” energy versus sapping mine. But that is surely not always the case. Ha ha ha…!

Any person who has ulterior motives does not have your best interest at heart, period. When a person or group is lurking around you that practices any form of over-indulgence, self-loathing, greed, lust, jealousy, abuse or even the most subtle cases of neediness, insecurity, fear, anger, depression or depravity…that is a sure sign of a decaying or worst yet, a rotting soul. I can smell it from a mile away, just like bad breath from a cavity or a corpse in the sun. Gross. Rotting from the inside out on some level, they will eventually burst into the flames of their unevolved irresponsible irreverent choices, their karma. Any person choosing to engage in actions or activities that feed off of outside resources such as drugs, alcohol, sex, food….or other people’s character, wealth, health or status or even worse… prey on a person’s vulnerability or weakness or belittle them…..in order to feel good, gain power, courage, control or happiness……is a vampire. An energy vampire. A psychic vampire. The book “The Celestine Prophecy” written by James Redfield, speaks about “control dramas.” Let’s pause for a moment, and listen to what the prophecy states:

“When we use a “Control Drama” to hold power over another, we absorb their energy, leading to a sense of gratification and motivation to continue the practice. We thus become ‘addicted’ to the sensation and we will get progressively more demanding and out of control in our efforts to absorb even more energy from our interactions with others

“The 4th Insight announced that eventually humans would find wholeness in a spiritual universe made of magnetic energy, an energy that can sustain us and respond to our expectations.  Yet, we would also see that because we have been disconnected from the larger source of this energy, we are left feeling weak, insecure and in need.

In the face of this shortage, we have always sought to increase our personal energy in the only manner we have fully understood: by seeking to psychologically steal it from one another. We seek to find some way to control and thus to remain on top in the encounter.  All we know is that we feel weak, insecure and lost and when we control others we feel better. What we don’t realize is that this sense of feeling better hurts the other person. It is their energy that we have stolen. Though this struggle is largely unconscious, it underlies all of the human conflicts in the world.  Most people go through their lives in a constant hunt for someone else’s energy.”

Me: With that said, these people that roam the Earth are essentially not givers, but takers. They are vultures and thieves. They steal from others what they themselves do not have, so that they can feel liberated on some level and relieved for a time by the false sense of security or satisfaction they themselves do not feel adequate enough to gain independently. Apparently, these people are unable to tap the inner resources of light and love within, for whatever reason. I say…take a yoga class or somethin’, join a prayer group, or just go soak up the sun’s energy in your backyard if that’s the only evident greater force u can relate to for Heaven’s sake.

Let the prophecy speak once more:

Spiritual consciousness is the key to ending human conflict in the world because, during each encounter, we are receiving energy from another source–a source we will eventually learn to pull from unconsciously.

Once humans understand their struggle, the insight continued, we would immediately begin to transcend this conflict. We would begin to break free from the competition over mere human energy…because we would finally be able to receive our energy from another source.

As you emerge into the Fourth Insight from the Third, you are becoming fully aware of the Universe’s ruling principle: GIVING and see it returning in your life.  Now practice giving your energy instead of taking it and see how you feel.”

Me: I surely do support “The Celestine Prophecy” and all of its valuable insights. Yes, I affirmatively agree that we must all learn to master the art of tapping “Source” energy and thus training ourselves to be givers, for it is evidently the key to eradicating “control dramas.” However, for now, sadly, we live in a modern day world of many. Those of us who have a fighting chance we must learn how to navigate these waters. “When in Rome”….as they say.

We live in a world where most people appear to be intrigued by the underbelly of society on some level, where we are captivated by violence, murder, addiction, tragedy, war, crime, conviction, persecution and prosecution. And then of course…triumph! From all these things. Everyone loves a good heroic ending…

We must recognize though, that the evils in the world really only exist and propagate due to centuries of old deep held beliefs in a “dark force” that seem to influence us all to compromise what’s good into something that’s bad. Whether that dark force really exists or not, or maybe it’s merely an illusion that we’ve created for ourselves…my thoughts are: we still have the individual right to choose for ourselves, what kind of “force” we wish to feed. It’s a very well-known concept and universally accepted truth that human beings were born with the freedom of will to choose. But unfortunately, some people choose the dark side, period. Some souls keep choosing the dark side, over and over and over again. I can’t say if they’ll ever crossover to the light side. I can’t say why some human beings that walk the Earth seem soulless even. There is an element of evil that exists within that particular populous of people that have chosen whatever it is that creates lower vibrations. Which is fine. Let them keep creating them. I am not here to save the world from monsters and minions. The design and destiny of humanity and Earth is a story told by the mysterious Universe and I can only know what I know. I am not here to figure out why toxic people exist or why certain evils still harm us and our world. But all the while, while I cannot stop people from being toxic, I can sure learn how to ward their unwelcome asses off.

The stories of good and evil and the “deadly sins” and the Ten Commandments all exist maybe just to discern things. To teach us how to recognize poisonous behaviors and know the difference between right and wrong. To give us a moral compass, ethical standard or code of proper conduct that we may measure ourselves against to gauge the quality of our individual character, keep karma in tow, and adjust any and all major or minor disparities within our families and communities. If we know what poisonous behavior looks like, maneuvers like, what it hides behind, how it tries to fool, trick or deceive us… we will recognize it and have the ability to dodge it before it can harm us. Awareness of what to notice, see, or spot… even lurking in cloudy waters, is a very useful weapon against any and all “evils.” And I think that it’s probably a really good idea for us all to get some: Awareness. #WarriorWisdom

There is a distinct difference between awareness and fear. Don’t get having awareness confused with paranoia or fear, these are two very different states indeed. Armed with awareness, we can catch predators in their tracks based on noticing and sensing and intuitively knowing, and then choosing to deter them from us or simply choosing to walk or run in the opposite direction. Might I add, facing them if necessary isn’t such a bad idea either. I can’t be sure if “killing with kindness” ever hurt anyone…..but, love sure does conquer all, in theory. Kindness carries with it light and love, and therefore, any dark force will be inclined to hide or cower in the face of it’s sunny goodness. Melt in the daylight. You know….like a vampire or heck, like the Wicked Witch of the West….”I’m melting! I’m melting!” lol

Power and protection go hand in hand with the weapon of awareness, and using that weapon wisely shall never fail us. Fear and paranoia only cripple our ability to face difficulty or danger efficiently. In turn, we demonstrate weakness and vulnerability thereof, and a shark will sure as shit, smell blood in the water. An attack dog smells fear, just like psychic vampires sense an opportunity to feed on a weak mind or heart, or anyone with their guard down, for that matter.

Sounds all dark and even morbid at times, but the subject matter is so very relevant. The fact that un-evolved, toxic, slightly out of tune or very unbalanced, unhealthy, and even “evil” people exist in the world is irrefutable. They could live right next door, down the street, even at your school or workplace. Good people like you and me cannot go on about our merry way through life thinking that everyone is good in the world just like us. It is simply not true. Turn on the news. Read the papers. Check the sex offender registry for your 10-mile radius. Prisons are overcrowded and heaping with tribes, cults and gangs of assassins and scam artists. People hurt and harm other people every day in the world. Sometimes even in your backyard. Control dramas are still so very much alive in circa 2016, and so are the droves of energy vampires. It is man’s karmic wheel spinning. It is what it is.

I am not stating all this to make anyone sad, depressed, scared or negative…I am simply stating all this to let you know that I think it is important information to have. We can’t very well walk around in some kind of la-la land, thinking that we are just not gonna be subject to our enemies once in a while, if not daily, on some level or in some way, shape or form. By enemies, I mean anyone not on our team. The team of light travellers, the “good ones” or good human beings. Those of us who are givers, those of us who are mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, spiritually aware, universally in tune to Source energy. Those of us who are plugged into the greater good. That team. Check out www.abraham-hicks.com for more about “Source energy.”

It’s kinda comparative to the two superhero clans. You are either on one side or the other. And by the way, some people don’t even know they are playing for a team. They are just either ignorant or slightly leaning in one direction or the other at times. Sometimes toxic, sometimes not, depending on what mood they are in. We have to be aware of them too. Darkness lingers in even the purest of hearts. Which is fine. We are beautifully flawed as humans. There are many people only halfway there and/or struggling to crossover, if you will. But one man’s beautiful flawedness shouldn’t become my problem, issue or harm. The art of learning how to dodge bullets is only taught by and through awareness. And awareness doesn’t discriminate. It just spots the stuff, whether it exists in an evil to the max person, or just a person having a bad day. Bullets shoot out sometimes from the most unexpected obscure places. Even the most evolved human can still drop the ball sometimes.

I’m not perfect, but I will be damned if I would choose to deliberately go into some kind of dark mode that leads me to be a predator or vampire or toxic individual that harms others. That’s simply not going to happen, if I can help it. When I make mistakes or have a negative moment or have to contend with some kind of flaw, personal issue, or inner demon….I will do my best to deal with it without infecting others. I am not gonna take out my shit on the dog, the kid or my husband. Not good. Rule #1: “evolved people” don’t do that, and if we slip and do it by accident, we practice forgiveness of ourselves and make our amends promptly. Need I say, “beautifully flawed.” No biggie.

The best advice I think that I can give to myself and others is to practice awareness via tuning the intuition and learning how to sense energy and vibration. Learning to spot control dramas, know what psychic vampires look like by learning to see beyond the veil of people’s manipulative personalities, taking the blinders off in the moment by not being distracted from the truth with prejudice or preconceived notions based on appearance. Looks can be deceiving. Assumptions never are accurate. “Assume: makes an ass out of u & me…”

Having open eyes and an open mind will allow us to see the signs, spot the red flags, and sense any and all dangers, even the slightest ones. Once we’ve spent enough time and given enough unabridged unbiased attention to all components of a person, we reach a moment when we can make a fair assessment. Then and only then, will we be able to discern where that person belongs in our life. Either in it personally or professionally on some level, close to us, standing on the edge, coming in and out for brief times, or maybe just not at all. Word ta the wise: even your best friend can betray you. Remember Judas? Hey, some animal species eat their offspring for crying out loud. “Mama! Why are you coming toward me like that?!” said baby bear. Yes, I said bear. Google it… lol. That’s some dark irony.

Sorry. So yes, always be aware. There is a fine line between trust and awareness. Love is blind? Only if you are.

Keep your glasses on no matter how flawless you may think a relationship is.

You were born into this world alone. And you will die that way as well. You alone are responsible for your happiness, peace, contentment, and wealth and heath and wholeness. Don’t let anyone hurt, harm or hinder your freedom to protect and preserve that. Not your Mom, Dad, child, lover, boss, best friend, or even the President of the United States of America. No one has the right to steal from you or manipulate your journey, under the guise of goodness, authority, senoirity or status. It’s our job to spot any and all attempts to hurt, harm or harass our lives, and protect ourselves. Awareness is our friend and should be accompanied with a sharp frequent visualization of a nice thick beam of light encircling us for protection at all times…”A circle of white light” as they say.

 

Be Good;)

—Namaste

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Defining Success

13466469_715375568605053_4104507221477251976_n“I am successful because I continue to learn how to give and give and give. I also continue to learn how to receive, receive, receive.” Success is this sweet little hot spot where we know inherently that we are immune from any and all stereotypical stoplights because we are confident champions of our brands, beliefs and plights. I am successful because I thank the Universe for my success despite its status. The wave of fortune then will smile upon me with the sparkling eyes of fate and the dreamy heart of destiny. Defying the gravity of failure, odds or probability, success soars forth! The poetry of my soul will shine through, and the reason you have read thus far, is cause….YOU indeed, are successful TOO!

Accomplished…yes! Driven…yes! Rewarded…yes! Desires pictorialized in visions and dreams…yes! Sheer faith…yes! Camaraderie…yes! Stomping doubts and fears…yes! Ignoring negative Nellys…yes!

Today’s Check List:

Be loving

Be kind

Be silly

Be wise

Be free

Be fun

Informed. Aware. Balanced. In tune. Aligned.

Shine. Share. Care. Dazzle. Dream.

Do what you love.

Give. Receive.

Know how you feel. Say what you mean.

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Conscious living: Grand Central Station

I spent a lot of my life wishing I was a cat. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I will just reincarnate right away into one for my next life…lol.

I believe in fate. But I also believe that we play our part to construct its design. There’s not much in the way of limits on what we can manipulate or maneuver in order to fashion fate. the one thing I do know, recognize & realize…is that one day we will all fall down. Meaning: the body will eventually surrender its service to us.

Which is fine. I’m okay with that. The scary part, I guess, is just, ya know, wondering how it will happen or when…

Not knowing is where the mystique of the unknown creeps in & fear rears its weird bizarro creepy face.

But, ya know, ya just gotta think about it this way…who cares….how or when. Cause fate has a way of finding us no matter what cards we play. We are basically powerless for that matter in that department, so….why worry?

And that’s fine too, cause life is fleeting & short as shit any way you slice it. 🙂

In a blink of an eye, we all pass each other by.

Some stay long, some leave us. But life is really all just a big fat giant Grand Central Station full of people gettin’ in & out of trains, on over to buses, cars, & cabs all day long. People are rushing, runnin’, walkin’, sprinting, sitting, or snoozed out. Crossing paths, comin’, goin’, passing through, traveling to & from all sorts of different destinations. Some ride together, some don’t. We have our drivers, passengers, leaders, followers. People who solicit, people who preach, sell things, steal things, meet for the first time or run into each other again. People making friends, networking, following routines or routes. Conversating, making small talk or connecting. Goin’ on vacation, trips, work, school, or just goin’ back home. Or maybe just getting on each others nerves & pushing each other out of the way to climb the steps, catch the elevator or ride in the front or the back. People text, tweet, snapchat or skype. Record things, snap pics, drink a beer, watch the game or play one. People wait, are late, eat, flirt, kiss, hug, hold hands. Drink coffee & energy drinks, chew gum, smoke whatever it is people are smokin’ theses days & read…..papers, magz, whatever the heck else work, school or pop culture requires.

Let’s rejoice in today. And the bus, train, path & journey we are on. And the person, people, things, animals, kids, events & experiences taking place near us, on it. Cause this moment counts. Everything in it counts. They are all precious pieces to the cosmic puzzle. And maybe we are all just here in this life, to recognize that.

Today’s power thought: “Today, i will slow down… so that I may recognize the moment & in doing so, I will recognize fearlessly, all life has to show & offer me, with an elevated heart, mind & consciousness. It is my pleasure to live in this very moment!”

Thanks Universe! For giving me another day, opportunity, the wellness & secret ambition to do so!

Peace!

JZapp 😉