#MeFuckinToo

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Here I go again, using my own disheartening experiences with men that INSIST on pushing me into unwelcome sexual exchanges. I draw from these personal challenges to create bad ass life changing blog articles that help people. Can’t go wrong there. Boo Yah! My brow has been wrinkled all morning, though, it’s not like I like this. But I have no choice. I either channel it… or grow to be a very mean mean witch that will likely eat you, if you come too close.

Whether it’s talking about what they want to do to me or with me or what they want me to do to them, or… just plain… whining that they WANT me so bad (in a very graphic manner). Ewe. Or, it gets better… love when the dude actually thinks he has the right or knowledge to speak on MY NEEDS!!!!!! Great try, Slick Rick, but that has to be the most ignorant way to attempt to get laid, that I ever heard. Trying to convince me, that I NEED it. Wow. Think again, bro. Who died, & made you the President of Sex Town? How many times I choose to meet my needs & how I choose to do it, & who I choose to do it with, are, frankly… none of your Mother F-ing business. Weirdo. Go back to your cave dwelling & rub some sticks together, there, cave-boy wonder. And while you’re at it, rub one the fuck out too, so your impetuous unmanageable hormones will stop blinding out your sense of decency.

What part of NO don’t men understand? I completely have had ENOUGH of any man thinking that they can touch me to satiate a one-sided obsession, or even talk to me about my body parts without my consent. I am gonna start to  carry around soap on a rope from now on, & just whip it out as needed, to either slap a bitch-ass silly, or wash filthy mouths out, of these foolish knuckleheads who think that disrespecting a woman with unwanted sex talk, is kosher. It’s NOT! It’s super annoying, super creepy, super needy, low class, uncouth, & toxic, not to mention very unattractive. Unwanted is the key word here. Whatever happened to charm, dignity, integrity, respect, drawing her to ya in a subtle but worthwhile way. Wining, dining, putting in some effort, a little TLC, some good old-fashioned convo?

Unwanted sexual talk & advances are not going to to get men where they want to go, EVER. Should I repeat that? There is never just cause. Just because the girl is either at a bar, night club, it’s 2AM, or even in a salacious setting such as a strip club, or maybe she has on revealing attire, is voluptuous, has nice legs, a fat ass, puffed up cleavage, sex appeal, or a seductive smile, THIS DOES NOT GIVE ANY MOTHER F-ING MAN THE RIGHT… to disrespect her with unwanted sexual talk, advances or at worst… assault. Shall I repeat that, gentlemen??

Attention all wanna-be Pimps & Playaz: unless you have something of value to offer to a lady, don’t even bother. And unless you wanna end up with your name on a court document, I would recommend you mind your manners, respect boundaries & play your cards right by knowing for certain sure that your attention is NOT the unwanted kind.

If she looks uncomfortable, says she’s uncomfortable, isn’t catching your drift or clearly NOT flirting back… then, duh… ass-face, back the fuck off!!! She’s just not that into you. Hello? What part of the word: NO, don’t you understand?? It’s not rocket science. Woman are not just made for your pleasure. Just because we may look good, or smell good, or laugh at one of your stupid jokes, doesn’t mean it’s okay to cross boundaries. We are not robots with plushy sex parts that are built to serve every man’s beck & call. We are not REQUIRED to respond to your extremely out of line, degrading, disrespectful behaviors. We are not rag-dolls that get turned on by your selfish, self centered, self-serving, narcissistic, phallic fantasies of the way you THINK we are supposed to conspire with you to fulfill some lustful secret greedy agenda. Didn’t your mama teach you any manners?

What the hell is wrong with men? Many of them. With all due respect to the good ones out there, your arch nemesis’ are scattered all over the map, now clearly OUTED, finally… courtesy of the #MeToo movement. They are at your workplace, in your neighborhood, community, on your team, at the gym, your church, in your back yard, your school, the local grocery store, the bar, club, restaurant, any & everywhere. Any & everywhere, I can almost guarantee there is a plotting, predatory man lurking around a random corner. Two brands, either one: the guy who simply  has no self control, or two: the guy who is simply so full of himself that he thinks that controlling a woman for self gratification is justifiable, ethical or a viable means to secure an ego-based position of  power or status.

Big blinking neon sign: We are not Lions in the Animal Kingdom.

We are human beings with a soul, heart, mind & a super conscious very sophisticated sense of self.

What? Didn’t ya get the memo? Guess not.

Un-evolved Cave man who thinks only with his penis:
“(grunt, grunt, grunt) Me—want—fuck—you. Me—want—pussy.”
Lovely respectable lady in a bar with style & class:
“Go Fuck… yourself, Chief. Heathens went out of style with the Dinosaur era. Your game sucks. Your lines blow. Your presence is straight offensive.  You best take a hike up shit’s creek without a paddle, there,  fool. Games over.”

 

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The Twelve Step Program is outdated.

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Attention: all those who wish to be liberated from the limiting beliefs & restrictions of backwards doctrines. Whether it’s religion, or Narcotics Anonymous or a program being imposed (inflicted) upon our children via secular school curriculum. Today, I will talk NA, for the sake of the countrywide “crisis” we now face as a Nation, & quite frankly, also as a worldwide race, sinking deeper. Pull up a chair. Check your ego at the door. Hear me out.

Since this is the day & age where Opioid addiction has become so prevalent & destructive that it has been declared a National Health Emergency by our current President, I believe that this conversation is very necessary. The Opioid crisis spans waaaaay back in time. I guess people are just noticing, all of a sudden? I guess it’s time for the government to capitalize on it, jump in on the greed game, with Big Pharma, rehabs, doctors, & detox facilities. They must have felt left out. (mmm-hmmm)  Regardless of the reason or timing or motive, this article is about a much more important topic. It’s about how Twelve-Step Programs are outdated, & quite frankly, in my seasoned opinion… sabotaging people to stay stuck on a merry-go-round for the remainder of their “clean & sober” lives as a “Recovering Addict.”

Even though Twelve-Step programs are the most accessible formats offered in our society, to assist those attempting to get & stay clean, they are not the most effective. Would you like me to repeat that? Twelve-Step programs seem to be in place everywhere. More or less, they are the leading protocol for all recovery seekers, however, just like old outdated programs in the mind that need adjustment, so does this program of protocol in our society that says: Twelve-Step programs are the be all end all best solution to maintaining a clean life. That is a misconception that has been ingrained into our society.

Even though the Twelve-Steps can be very effective for many people in need of guidance, redirection, or respite, as they contain a workable formatted guideline to redefine your journey… they are written with an outdated perspective. Comparable to the many wild mythologies & parables of the Bible that are racist, sexist & outdated & certainly would be much more understood & relevant if revised to meet a modern morale & standard.

The Big Blue Book has the right ideas, & contains plenty of nutrient rich intel, don’t get me wrong, but still… if we look at the big picture, certain outmoded content needs to be significantly altered in order to avoid the pitfalls of the past (the revolving door) & ultimately attain better results, going forward. “If we do what we’ve always done, we will get what we’ve always gotten.” Hmmmmm… don’t I recall that poster hanging on the wall of every rehab, detox & meeting? NA, needs to follow it’s own advice.

The Twelve Steps need to be adjusted & rewritten to meet a new improved standard of accountability that speaks more to our empowerment than to our powerlessness… at the very least. It’s 2017-18… I’m surprised no one has done that yet, frankly. Aren’t you? Well, after some Google research, it seems there are a few revisions here & there, but unfortunately, nothing was ever universally implemented.

Meetings are everywhere, especially for the weary. In any city, state, & country one finds themselves… no doubt, there’s a meeting down the street there. NA & AA is a HUGE organization with a cult-like following. I get it. But, true recovery is an inner journey. If people are not redirected properly, they will end up latching on to anything they can get their hands on, including meetings & other people going through the same thing. This usually poses a threat to our sobriety, because people are essentially not outgrowing dependence at all, but reinforcing it instead. No longer reliant on drugs or alcohol to get by, now they are reliant on people & a flawed culture of people that keep announcing aloud: they are addicts. On top of the fact that these groups are likely filled with a shit-ton of ex-cons, thieves, liars, & manipulators with criminal behavior & addictive personalities who very well likely relapse frequently. Who very well likely seek comfort through sex, or ban together to do more dirt than what got them there in the first place. Which at the very least, is counterproductive. I’ve witnessed & experienced this first hand, over & over.

Yes, Twelve-Step programs are free. meetings are free. It’s the most accessible means in any community, to connect people to recovery resources, aide, or help for sobriety. It’s like a big church of sorts, for any kind of addict to attend. They welcome everyone without judgement or discretion. Remarkable indeed, but it still doesn’t change the fact that once a person walks through that door, they are expected to do two things to remain there. One: admit they are an addict over & over again by stating aloud “I am an addict” every time they announce themselves to talk… and two: buy into the belief that addiction is a disease. Both of these concepts are counterproductive & are not accurate within the context of Universal Law.

Universal Law states that the I Am principle of deliberate creation is how we harness & own our divinity/personal power. Stating: I am an addict, over & over, each time you verbally represent yourself to others…. is sabotaging the mind to believe you are still an addict. Would you like me to repeat that?  It’s complete opposite of what living a clean life aims for. “I am a recovering or recovered addict,” would be more suitable. But, even then, the I am statement is still making a declaration that is essentially keeping that person trapped in some kind of stereotype of recovering addict persona. The goal is: to change how we identify ourselves. If twelve step people are constantly identifying themselves & others as addicts in or out of recovery, then they will just be stuck within an identity that is limiting. We are in the business of redefining who we are, so that we do not see ourselves as that addict or that struggling person in recovery. We must change the way we view ourselves & our lives & paths, with our imagination & creative visualizing faculties. We will see results faster & easier & we will make significant lasting progress rather than temporary baby steps that likely get lost & buried within the next relapse. And oh, I can almost assure you… there will be a next relapse.

From a self-proclaimed non-Twelve-Step successfully recovered person’s point of view (mine)>>>>> I sincerely believe, going forward, that non-Twelve-Step programs are so instrumental to effective change in the recovery community. For anyone that wishes to stop being a serial repeater of the same patterns & then relapsing incessantly… there’s only one choice: seek your local non-Twelve-Step program. Make sure it’s legit. There’s financial assistance out there, don’t believe the hype that says there’s not. It’s accessible to you, no matter what class or race or ethnicity you are. Make it happen. No excuses.

Regarding that “disease” notion…. I strongly disagree. A disease is typically described as something either terminal or acquired unexpectedly without our consent, not chosen. Addiction, though predisposed to some extent due to genetics… it is still not a disease. Calling it a disease is putting a label on it that makes it sound inescapable, terminal or something out of our control. Addiction is none of those things. The Twelve Steps teach that we are powerless over our addiction. But, this is a false statement. Once in the throes of the active compulsion of addiction itself, we are powerless in a sense, for we are being possessed by our insatiable desires. But, once we detox from whatever the obsession is… then we gain back our power & can thus exercise our own authority then to rise above the compulsion that once controlled us. We can consciously choose to reverse the damage by changing how we view ourselves, life & the word addiction.

Addiction is not a disease, it’s a temporary compulsion that can be transformed & channeled into a more balanced personal stability via self-love, physical activity, meditation, creative visualization, lots of emotional purging & cleansing & ultimately the rewiring of the mind. No one said it was a quick fix. But, it doesn’t have to take forever either. And the Twelve-Step program is not the most efficient road to recovery. It’s definitely flawed, on many levels. Calling addiction a disease, is keeping people stuck. Point blank.

Choose life. Choose freedom. Choose to name yourself not “addict” but, person with a message on a mission with a plan & a purpose. A person who graduated from the sting of addictive behaviors & moved to the next level because they wanted to, chose to, consciously, deliberately chose to, because they were sick of being sick & tired. If u want to be rich, hang out with rich people. If u want to be a successful human being with little or no vices, then hang with people who practice believing in greater things, talking about greater things, moving in brighter directions while leaving the past behind. Not a bunch of poor me’s in a room, all gathered together chatting about war stories all the time, smoking cigarettes, & drinking watered down sugared coffee with powdered faux creamer. Folks who gather there are typically validating negative patterns & practices & reinforcing bad behaviors by & through always running over the same ground together. And, it is made worse when the fraternizing is done with the newbies that are still likely in the throes of their addiction secretly, or very close to it anyway.

I know Twelve-Step programs mean well, but many times they can be a cesspool of seriously unhealed dysfunctional people with problems, criminals, ex-cons, drug dealers & users alike. And since sex is not against the law, these dysfunctional people without their main vice, now gravitate toward each other, to fill up the empty spaces. It’s a big shitshow, if ya ask me. A big shitshow with no qualified leader at the helm…with any kind of behavioral, spiritual or psychological credentials. The speaker that day, is essentially just a person who is another “Addict” just one drink or drug away from full blown relapse, no matter how many days or years clean they may have accumulated. As if this will ground them to their sobriety, they stay with a coin in their pocket or a colored key chain to remind them of the collection of days they have under their belt, when in truth, all it is, is plastic or medal. What counts is what’s within. The rooms don’t keep us clean… it’s the development & strengthening of our inner sanctum that does.

I get it, though. I’m not trying to be mean. I’m just not a fan. I am not denying that AA & NA have saved millions of lives throughout their days on the scene. It’s a program that works if you work it indeed. But, it’s certainly not fail-safe, & it certainly could be cleaned up, (no pun intended), to be a lot more effective, if ya ask me, like re-wording the Twelve Steps etc. Stop calling addiction a disease & defining it as a terminal thing people are stuck with for the rest of their lives. And, stop making people identify themselves as the “I am an addict” persona. It’s totally counterproductive. To the max. We need to teach people life skills, coping skills & how to tap resources from within, as opposed to moving from one crutch to the next. A street drug to a prescription drug. Teaching people to “surrender to a disease” is a funny way of teaching people self-empowerment, don’t ya think?

It’s time for people to start recognizing how addictive behaviors are formed & implemented in a person’s life, so we can see how to prevent that going forward. What’s the root cause? The root issue? What’s so empty inside? Where’s the location of the emptiness? Is it mere boredom? Or is it more gripping like… hopelessness or helplessness? Where does the fear lie? Anger, hatred, resentment, sadness, regret, guilt, madness, confusion, depression, aggression, greed, fear, scarcity, lack, limitation, self-loathing, mistrust, instability, insecurity, fear of failure, fear to succeed, lack of self-worth or self-confidence. Find the source of the grief & work it out. Because, that’s the sure culprit of any compulsion.

The more we feed a compulsion, the more the brain’s chemistry & climate changes to accommodate the mind-altering substance or activity, which means the brain begins to become malnourished, poisoned, lazy, mismanaged & ultimately wires & signals get all kinds of crossed. Which also means, it will take more work to inevitably dig out. Hence, rigorous mind-body-spirit overhaul, which will likely take years to undertake in order to see real results.

The brain is a computer of sorts that is very susceptible to toxicity, just like our bodies. Ya can’t expect to continuously poison the body with preservatives, high fructose corn syrup, hydrogenated oils, trans fat, straight sugar & sodium for a long period of time without consequences. Eventually the body begins to change its chemistry & break down. Diabetes, stroke, heart attack, obesity & depression will thus ensue. The only way to combat the toxicities & reverse the damage, is to quit cold turkey, the consumption of all toxic food & drink, & nurture & nourish the body back to health with exercise, lots of water, healthy leafy greens, fruits, veggies… prayer/meditation, & practicing new improved habits. Eventually, the blood pressure will even out, the cholesterol number will level, the diabetes can reverse, the excess weight will drop off, an air of joy will begin to replace depression, & sloth will certainly turn to ambition. But it takes, time, discipline & dedication. It doesn’t happen overnight. The longer the body had been exposed to the toxicities, the more damage has been done, hence the longer it will take to undo. Sage advice: Practice patience… she will be your most treasured pet & ally. Treat her kindly.

Persistence, dedication, commitment, willpower & self-empowerment via self-improvement will win back all personal freedom & reinstate a new lease on life that will graduate a person to a whole new level composed of immeasurable great heights. Soaring potentials realized. Regarding addiction, compulsions, obsessions, diseases, illnesses, sickness, distress, worry, regret over the past or anxiety over the future. Whatever the hell needs to be addressed & renovated… faith in our personal Divine capacity to co-create change, with the powers that be (God-Force/Love/Light)… will be our SOLE SALVATION.

Don’t be an amateur.

Peace.

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Recovery Resources/Services/Hotlines (non Twelve-Step)

  • What Addicts Know: 10 Lessons from Recovery to Benefit Everyone by Christopher Kennedy Lawford
  • American Addict (2012) & The Big Lie: American Addict 2 (2016) (Documentaries)
  • Recovery: Freedom From Our Addictions by Russell Brand (His newest book 2017)
  • http://www.smartrecovery.org/ Smart Recovery/Self-management for addiction recovery>>> “Discover the power of choice!”

SMART Recovery is the leading self-empowering addiction recovery support group. Our participants learn tools for addiction recovery based on the latest scientific research and participate in a world-wide community which includes free, self-empowering, science-based mutual help groups.

SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training) is an international non-profit organization which provides assistance to individuals seeking abstinence from addictive behaviors. The approach used is secular and scientifically based using non-confrontational motivational, behavioral and cognitive methods. Meeting participants learn recovery methods derived from evidence-based addiction treatments. Substance/activity dependence is viewed by the organization as a dysfunctional habit (rather than a disease), while allowing that it is possible that certain people have a predisposition towards addictive behavior.

The SMART Recovery 4-Point Program helps people recover from all types of addiction and addictive behaviors, including: drug abuse, drug addiction, substance abuse, alcohol abuse, gambling addiction, cocaine addiction, prescription drug abuse, sexual addiction, and problem addiction to other substances and activities. SMART Recovery sponsors face-to-face meetings around the world, and daily online meetings. In addition, our online message board and 24/7 chat room are excellent forums to learn about SMART Recovery and obtain addiction recovery support.

[Those admitted to our San Diego rehab often tell us that they struggle with the labels of “disease” “alcoholic” and “powerlessness.” Also, wording contained within the 12 Steps makes reference God, and this can be alienating for individuals who are secular, or whose sense of faith has been weakened.

AToN Center is a program that was founded on non-12 Step treatment principles. Therefore, our Center was designed as an evidence-based best practice model for treatment of addiction free from the barriers many people experience with 12 Step only treatment programs. AToN

Center’s San Diego rehab offers Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) as the clinical underpinning to all of our groups. We discuss an individual’s potential to change from the basic premise that in order to change behavior, you first need to change your thinking and learn emotional regulation skills.]

  • http://www.addicted.org/ Complete data base for recovery>> Excellent reference for non-12-step & low-cost programs for your specific state.

Toll free: 1.800.304.2219

  • http://www.drugrehab.org Biophysical Rehabilitation, Homeopathic and Alternative Options, and Non-12 StepDrug Rehab. Drug-free Detox.

Toll free:  1.877.958.9345

  • Dr. Phil Show
    325 N Larchmont Blvd, Suite 602
    Los Angeles, CA 90004 (writing a letter is the best way to reach him)
  • If you need help finding mental health services and support in your community contact: National Mental Health Association Information Center: nmha.org
  • National Suicide Hotline 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255)
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233)
  • National Child Abuse Hotline 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453)
  • Gulf Breeze Recovery’s THRIVE: Total Health Recovery Program is Changing the Face of Addiction Treatment! (Non-Twelve Step)

350 Pensacola Beach Blvd
Gulf Breeze, Florida 32561
Phone: 1 (855) 220-6677
Email: kat@gulfbreezerecovery.com

  • www.sanctuary.net The Sanctuary at Sedona: integrative addiction recovery (Create freedom from: Alcohol; Cocaine; Opiates; Marijuana; Prescription Drugs; Codependency; PTSD; Depression; Anxiety. Repair the brain. Heal the body. Recover the soul.) For more info call: 877.710.3385 (Non-Twelve Step)

The Book of Beautiful Feelings: a patriotic peek

Chapter Eight: POP CULTURE

American holidays 

Let’s bow our heads and take a moment to visualize the great American flag strung way up high in mid-air, above all the buzz, just free in the breeze. It’s quite a sight, and such a rich symbol of strength, triumph, and achievement.

Many warm thanks and praise to our soldiers and troops present and past. If it wasn’t for their valiant sacrifices, we would not have the precious privileges that our special beloved nation affords us so freely. United we stand, divided we fall; American military muscle gives us reason to stand proud and tall.

Big city to small town USA… multiple faces and multiple races gather far and wide. American freedom and liberty are so wildly celebrated on the Fourth of July by all its respective beneficiaries. Better known as “Independence Day” and rightfully so, it is America’s birthday, the day we honor our land of the free and home of the brave. Flags fly everywhere, to salute our nation’s good people, heroes, and rich history. Patriotism is on full blast.

The star-spangled fever everyone seems to have, is contagious. Camp trips, picnics, parks, festivals, concerts, sports games, and BBQs. Parties, clubs, beaches, pools, amusement parks, reunions, and gatherings…all with one last thing on their mind. All going out with a bam boom bang! The beloved classic all-American grand finale event: the firework display! oooo……ahhhh….

To me, fireworks splash huge extravagant colors in the sky in order to exclaim our nation’s united enthusiasm for who we are and what we stand for. Fireworks are the sparkler candles on the big fat birthday cake of our freedom. It is certainly a very meaningful annual celebration, which is inclusive of all American people, despite our differences. It’s a birthday celebration we are all invited to. On July Fourth, if you get the chance to fly in an aircraft across the states low enough in the sky, I bet you can see the plumes of pretty sparkly colors spouting out from all over the continent. Yay U.S.A.!

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America the Beautiful

Beads of jewel, fire & sharp gem sparks that infuse the empty blue dusk sky. An open horizon stretching with skylines of grey & pastel watercolor just quiet above the main street hustle. Little birds play. Pigeons paint the park. Trees rustle up high. The American flag is streaming live & proud.

Today is the 241st anniversary of our nation’s formal founding. The name America, though, is much older, dating back at least 510 years. America was named after Italian navigator Amerigo Vespucci (1454-1512.) And although history has it’s disputes over original settlers, land, & territory… I think it is safe to say that we celebrate on July 4th as a united community of all breeds, colors & creeds.

We are a giant fondue pot of blended personalities, views, beliefs, & cultures. We are free to express & experience life to the fullest here. Our human rights are protected. The Amendments protect & serve us. We are certainly blessed to have this land we call: Home… & also so very blessed to have each other in it. Happy birthday, United States of America.

We salute You!

 

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Circa2017

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Rules of Edible Engagement

LqZP1EMN“Eat Food, not too much, mostly plants” is what our species has done for hundreds of thousands of years. It’s good universal advice that is timeless & has been proven effective.

Don’t eat anything your great-grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food. Eat food that comes from a plant, not made in one. Food that doesn’t need a label is what nature intended. Pluck it off the vine, off the tree, up from the dirt if ya can.

If you are gonna choose to eat meat, treat it like a treat, eat it once a week. Consider dairy alternatives. Purchase only local organic humanely farm raised fare. Regard seafood as sacred. Behave accordingly.

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Eat deliberately to enjoy & savor texture, flavor & the moment to moment experience. Eat s-l-o-w-e-r. Take your time. Try to spend as much time enjoying the meal as it took to prepare it. Appreciate your bites. Chew mindfully. Pick out a smaller plate, bowl or cup. Eat in smaller portions. Stop before your full.

Enjoy food in good company. Eating is a celebration with others, a tribute to your health. Recognize in the moment how food is serving your nutritional needs. Praise the beauty of its nourishment. There is pleasure in eating. Sit, cherish, relax & chew cheerfully.

Be in bright spirits with merry thoughts. Cultivating a relaxed, non-punitive attitude toward food is essential to the dissemination of nutrients & the assimilation of their benefits. Being anxious about eating is not the ideal. Make your everyday default practice, one that is nurturing.

“All things in moderation, including moderation” —Oscar Wilde.

That said…break the rules once in a while. Go ahead & share dessert with guiltless zest!

Eat many colors. Propose a toast. Say grace. Always tip your server generously & always hug the Chef! Bon appetit! Cheers!

#FrenchParadox

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Inspired by:

In Defense of Food PBS Documentary Film by: Michael Pollan

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Vegan Wild Child: A Day in the Life

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I eat Root veggies for grounding & connection to Mother Earth. I eat raw Ginger, & local raw honey for a zing & a zang. I eat orange & lemon for a quik pop of C. I eat lovely leafy shades of GREEN for protein & overall nutrition. Berries are brain food. Garden veggies are the energy of the golden sun. Bananas are not just for monkeys. A swig of apple cider vin for PH balance. A probiotic is a “smooth move.” lol. Turmeric is a wonder drug-spice. All fresh herbs are living antioxidants. Chia seeds expand with exceptional essential benefits….so I add them to calcium-fortified almond milk & shake it up! Happy hummus is my spreadlicious best friend. Olive oil, & avocado keep my skin radiant… not to mention they are packed with Omega 3s, good fat & well over 20 nutrients in that great guac ya just made 🙂 Grainy toast is my guilty pleasure, with a touch of melty creamy coconut oil & a sprinkle of sunflower seeds. And, oh Romeo, oh Romeo where for art thou… with my delicate squares of sexy sea salted Twilight Cacao…? I wish to pair them so perfectly with a dark inky plum red Zin-tabulous vino with that fruit forward flash, my love!

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#LoveTheOneYourWith #LoveYourBody #LoveYourNeighbor #LoveAnimals

Frienemies Versus Kindred Spirits

I am gonna go ahead & rip up the rulebook now. I think it’s time. My writing career has reached that season, as my spirit has evolved to the hum of holy holographic heights, & my range of worldly motion has reached prolific peaks. Click Follow. I’m on a role & plan to stay here.

This blog is essentially my online magazine of sorts. It was originally launched as a website to promote my book, but it has now evolved into a weekly publication of various informative & entertaining articles from all different directions. God works in mysterious ways. I am who I am, & if you don’t like me, where I came from, who I roll with or the powerful presence of mind I may have, oh well. Keep it steppin’ then. With that said, here goes my newest invention, ripped with style & grace as always. Thank you for attending the service 🙂

If two people have nothing in common, they don’t hang out. If two people disagree, they work it out, agree to disagree or go separate ways. So why do so many people mindlessly spend so much time around others that harm them, cramp their style, tarnish their ideals, victimize their hearts, & steal their mojo? It is simply not necessary or good for ya even. And, that’s around-about what this article will touch upon.

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Super Zapp! Here to shed some lustrous rainbow faceted diamond light again, folks.

I am gonna start with something a little taboo, though first…Since these days people seem to like to be lured into reading as if lustfully enslaved. I am gonna do just that from now on BTW. People do oftentimes read books still, but circa 21st century, they seem to read em on an e-reader. In the dark ages of the 80s & 90s…lol… folks used to pick up a mag walkin’ thru the local convenience store line, nowadays everybody reads headlinesonline.

Speaking of books, ya can’t help but notice the significant levels of endorphins that arise when one engages in the activity of reading escape-worthy delicious novels. The handsome hunk of a hero prevails, the seductive damsel in distress is rescued & ravished, vikings & villains have this sexy talent for illuminating intrigue, & the townspeople are all interconnected in mysterious rather promiscuous twined tales. The games they all play are riddled with scandalous wild forbidden provocative pursuits. Blood pressure rises, hearts beat with a bit of butterflies, & flying by the seat of the pants on a wing & prayer is quite stimulating, erotic & esoteric even. Spray me down with a hose there, Bill-bob…my ears are hot, my cheeks blushing…

I am not so sure how I intend on integrating that salacious edge into the prose I compose. But we will soon find out together. Mainly, cause I usually don’t see what’s comin’ til it gets here.

Sex & spirituality coming together in one sentence, on one platform… in not two separate chairs, but quite frankly…on a very cozy hammock. Swinging back & forth, & back & forth again, on the air & breezes of a lazy summer day. Happy together. Drawn to each other like two entities swirling in a magnetic cosmic dance of sorts. Essentially, exploring the many hallways of “a good-time.”

Can’t have a successful union without the consummation of sex with a spiritual backdrop. Period. Sex without the spiritual backdrop will be the kind that just feels…kinda empty afterward. We’ve all been there. Ya live & learn as they say. Some of us may still even be there, no biggie. I’m sure you’re open to improvement, & that’s what I am here for.

 

With that said, to be on the same wavelength & energetic pathway where chemistry is a no-brainer is to be kindred spirits. If one decides to lay down with a person who doesn’t fit that profile via matching them vibrationally (said kindred spirit), the sexual encounter with certainty, will be lacking & unfulfilling any further than the act itself. Then when the lust factor subsides, what’s left…is very simple: blah. Yes, you heard it right…BLAH is left. lol. Leftover buzzes work to mask the blah. But, when the rose-colored glasses come off…one see’s how senseless & unmeaningful it all was. Hey, it’s all a person’s preference. If you are the type to be cool with the surface illusion of a great time masking the truth of a rather spiritually toxic time…that’s absolutely your god-given right to choose, baby. Who am I to judge?

Goin to the bone-yard without a condom or a clue…is just plain stupid if ya ask me. Sex with a kindred spirit on the other hand, always has a sweetness to it. Like fruit from a tree… so naturally satisfying, all aged to perfection with sunshine & raindrops, bursting with nutrients & flavor. Now what’s not to like about that?  That’s what I’m talkin about. Ya just can’t go wrong. If you wanna eat raisins, it’s certainly your prerogative. But I like grapes much better. Plump, alive & juicy…. OR… dead, shriveled up, & preserved with sulfur. You choose. lol

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As long as two people are connected to each other by way of wavelength… then energetically their spirits will thus blend & bodies will then just follow. It’s law. Easy breezy. Can’t feel crappy after that one…unfulfilled or shameful. It’s a “good time” not just cause of the benefits, but because each person’s soul gets fed too. It’s quite natural actually. How it goes down. hahaha (no pun intended).couple-in-love-drinking-coffee-in-coffee-shop-2-640x426

Two people blend & bond & benefit each other sexually & spiritually if they indeed are kindred spirits. If they are…then unconditional love is present within the union & the God-Force dominates & orchestrates their togetherness shared. You don’t have to be married to have that. You don’t have to even be exclusive or monogamous. Not that I am in favor of promiscuity or promoting irresponsible “free-love.” I am just saying that there doesn’t have to be a requirement for a label or expectation until the two folks decide otherwise. Communication is in place just for that very purpose.

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What I am speaking of here, is a brand of sexual connection that is healthy, healing, holistic, happy, & the ultimate rush, I think. The ultimate high. It makes perfect sense, for those of us who have grown tired of outdated dating. For those of us who are looking to change up the so-called rules & regs of the sex game. Trade out the dirty socks for clean ones….it is indeed 2017, last time I checked. A redefining of plenty of things is surely at hand, & that definitely includes sex & spirituality.

Things just unfold easily when you are in the arms or presence of a person who gets you. It’s never a trying experience. Time not only flies, but typically disappears. The quality of thoughts & feelings exchanged is enchanting. Magic seems to be all in the air. Things make sense. The environment begins to fall into focus. Warm vibes crown you both. Each is a muse to the other. No shortage of smiles. Giggles shall be plentiful. Mutual respect & admiration is king. You CARE. And, hugs, hands & hearts blend like butter & toast.soul-300x250

We obviously cannot have loose sexual boundaries with all of our kindred spirits. But we certainly can allow ourselves to feel good with each of them. It’s perfectly natural to favor a kindred spirit in such a way that your presence is complimentary to their flow. I personally, want to help up your game in any way I can. I want to be an asset to folks. I want to accentuate the good & great & powerful aspects of a person just by being fully present & aware. I expect, command, & decree the same in return. We weren’t put on this Earth to put each other down. We were born here to build each other up. And in order to do that, we must have open hearts, which I will explain further in a sec.

As I just mentioned, not every kindred spirit you meet, you will have sexual chemistry with. But, make sure the one you are sleeping with…is indeed a kindred spirit. Some kindred spirits are work or school ones. Some are family ones that you are related to. Some are friends, young, older, male or female. Some are both friends & lovers. All…serve individual purposes in your life. And, there is nothing like a life chock full of kindred spirits.d8053138b9a521481928f0a39808a173

It’s fun, it’s rewarding, it’s like a pleasant afternoon walk through life’s various scenes & circumstances…with little or no opposition or “frienemies.” I say “Frienemies” because the> “enemy in the brush” as I call it…is usually someone close. The more we excel as humans who identify with the spirit having a human experience, the more we supersede the attraction to us of said “enemy in the brush.” We essentially graduate “Red Flag School” with Aces, as we have learned the art of spotting the snake in the grass a mile away. No more do we endanger our lives, or jeopardize our progress, by accidentally allowing some brand of enemy to come around or scope us out. The static interference of the enemy in the brush no longer corrupts the sound system. Crystal clear sharp vibratory frequency then thus ensues, as all the folks in & out of our lives are…the “right ones”>>>kindred spirits.img_4253

When we have developed to a point in our personal evolution, where we are not tarnished or tainted any longer by past hurts or pains from residual effects of former relationships…that means that we have deliberately dug up certain weeds & consciously planted new seeds. We have done this in order to allow ourselves the opportunity to fully breathe again, & to honor our natural birthright to experience life to its fullest.

Humans seem to be so darn good at playing a victim role, self-sabotaging & depriving themselves of their true gifts, talents, joys & pleasures. It’s quite disconcerting. It’s time for us to grow out of these nasty habits & patterns, & replace them with new improved standpoints of being… where we shine way brighter, & tap unlimited resources within us rather than relying on temporal fleeting flawed elements in the material reality. Cosmic consciousness is eternal, infinite & immortal with limitless potentials. I say we learn to pick fruit & flowers from that garden.

Many folks are indeed doing themselves an injustice when they continue to cover up past pain via substance overuse or distractions. The acid reflux of the repressed emotions will continue to haunt & taunt until they are regurgitated completely & discarded &/or the emotional ties are severed via cutting cords. Snip! Snip! Snip! Up, up & out! Up, up & out, my friends. Locate it. Look at it. Let it go. Breathe in the good life. Breathe out what no longer serves you. Inhale prana life force energy. Exhale all toxic densities. Ghosts be gone!

As I stated before, we were born to this beautiful 3-D Earth plane planet to serve each other, lift each other up, not break each other down, or chew each other up & spit each other out. With that said, we must unquestionably have open hearts. What exactly does open heart mean? well, unclogging the Heart Chakra via unearthing & unleashing stuck old harbored hurts, guilts, fears, resentment, shame, pain, bitterness, distrust, disappointment & heartache, would be a nice big fat healthy jump off to the uncloggage process.

A little Chakra Ed 101: The 4th Chakra is the Heart Chakra. The Heart Chakra is located in the chest area, the Heart Chakra bridges the lower and upper chakras. It’s the bridge between the physical and the spiritual. The color of the Heart Chakra is a range of shades of gorgeous green. It is linked with feeling compassion, love, acceptance and gratitude. So when it is closed or repressed, the emotions of compassion, love, acceptance & gratitude are impaired….resulting in the experience of being a prisoner to the “painbody” rather than living a sweet human experience with a sense of excitement, joy & freedom. A closed or semi-closed Heart Chakra will lead to a very unfulfilling existence that indefinitely leads to much suffering, & a slow lonely death, basically.

Chakra is Sanskrit for: spinning wheel. 4809979-small-copyThey are essentially energy vortexes made of light & color that spin & churn energy, transmute it & distribute it accordingly. Opening & cleansing chakras can result in increased physical comfort & significantly improve health & well being. Since we are mainly just focused on the Heart Chakra for now, I will give you a visual so that you may use it as a tool to cleanse & unclog, so to speak.

maxresdefaultThe Heart Chakra is related to the element of air. This is why conscious breathing & the letting go process is so relevant here. So while you are consciously breathing…visualize the green golden spinning light vortex. It spins at medium speed, clockwise. The colors of this chakra are emerald, jade, & teal green shades of a beautiful lush sparkly forest. Located at the very center of your chest, you may focus your attention mindfully. There is a smaller chakra as well called the “Higher Heart Chakra” located to the upper right of the Heart Chakra that spins white hot golden pink firelight. They work in conjunction with one another. The Higher Heart Chakra echoes into the rich vibrant colors of the lushy green forest of the Heart Chakra. Sometimes I like to imagine each chakra as an alive, living,  pulsing many-petalled light-filled flower blooming, if that makes sense. Can you see it? It’s similar to like when time lapse video segments are combined into a one-minute piece, showing a flower growing fast before your very eyes. To me, that is the gorgeous green petalled Heart Chakra. It seems to be… just sat there as if breathing in a state of eternal bliss & blooming. Quite cool actually.

In order for the Heart Chakra to be clean & open it must be properly maintained. Like the engine in a Mazzaratti must be serviced regularly in order to keep it at its full operating capacity for optimal performance. One could say, that the Heart Chakra is the engine of us. It, therefore, must be free of all build up in order to function properly. All its pistons must be free of gunk & lubricated accordingly, in order for the rest of the car parts to function at their best. Past pains keep the heart center either closed or clogged. If the Heart Chakra is not renovated & deliberately opened… then it will warp a person’s emotional reality & stunt their capacity to give & receive love. It will disable their ability to feel good outside of artificial temporal means or the usage of others to feel good like a vulture or vampire.

Love from within comes from the Heart Chakra. Self-love is seated there. The only way a person can be whole in this lifetime & position themselves for superior success on all levels, in every area of life…is to heal & develop the Heart Chakra. Period.

When we learn to become one with our own true identity through this…subsequently, we become free of the belief in scarcity, neediness, greed, & selfishness. We will experience much less grief in the form of dis-ease, suffering, pain, chronic sadness, depression, fear or anger. We will be more inclined to float above, so to speak, the constant undercurrent of human-hood. We will learn how to manage not being caught within the ebb & flow & push/pull of the paradoxical reality of the opposites, consequently letting it affect & dominate our moods & attitudes leading to the Bi-Polar Nation we seem to live in today.

What were once manipulations, now become manifestations instead. We lose the need to manipulate because we have learned how to autonomously manifest our own chosen realities. Who needs to manipulate others & circumstances in their favor if they have harnessed the powers of deliberate creation via the law of attraction from within? Becoming a master manifestor eliminates the need for competition as well, for he knows that there is no need to compare or compete in order to manifest glory or significant increase. There is plenty to go around. One does not have to take away from one thing to give to another. Abundance is just that: Abundant. A master manifestor versus a master of illusion with a poker face… is much more admirable & evolved.

Where we were once inclined to feed off the TV, mindless fruitless activities, food, alcohol, drugs, sex, or any kind of over-indulgent behaviors…such as over-compensating, over eating, over working, over mothering, over gossiping, over spending, over exercising….we are now more inclined to be balanced & to be content with the stillness of the moment. The here & now…as they say.

Living successfully within the present moment, indicates that we have now learned to bask in the sun of the ever present eternal now. Unmoved like a tall strongly rooted tree in the midst of a raging hurricane. Be that eye of the storm, the peaceful calm…in the center of it all. Affirmation: ” I am! The eye of the storm!”

We become masters of our own realities as we have learned to tap source from within as opposed to lookin’ all around & out & about for things outside of us to cleanse our pallets & stimulate our appetite for satisfaction & fulfillment.

As of late, anyone that has been following my journey will know, I have chosen to become Vegan. I am now choosing to only eat vibrant plant-based foods. I have chosen this, not only for the sake of animal rights but by consuming natural earthy elements only,  it assists my soul in evolving more freely & rapidly. Leading to a more peaceful existence undone from the conditioning of the past in such ways via the harsh DNA strands in slaughtered & abused animals, my world shines much brighter & life becomes more of an effortless journey.

The heavyweight of any toxin that may have been a hidden “enemy in the brush” of sorts, concealed & lurking in the foods or liquids I may have been consuming for so long, is now lifted. The elusive threat to my well being is now removed. My spirit is now freer to animate & orchestrate my behaviors, choices, desires, thoughts & feelings accordingly… and my life, body, mind & soul are the beneficiaries thereof.

I am a firm believer in freedom of will & choice. It is up to each of us to discern what our own personal requirements are. Jesus once said: “Know Thyself.” It applies here. If you are to choose to partake of meat & dairy, please choose to do so responsibly. Choose: grass-fed, organic, free-range, humane farm raised everything. And, keep in mind: Moderation=Maturity.

There is an ancient Hermetic quote I like to refer to with regard to these concepts. It is as follows:

“As above, so below; as within, so without. All is mental; all is energy.”

—Hermetic Law

original_etched-apothecary-bottle-kindred-spiritMy advice…stick with your tribe. Life is much more fluid that way. Within the context of a life lived alongside kindred spirits…is joy & peace; serenity & fulfillment at it’s finest. La Dolce Vita! And, one more thing…detox the Heart Chakra…& you will finally realize what you’ve been missing all this time 🙂

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Namaste

JZapp ❤